As caregivers we go through so much of positive and negative things from the person we are caring for. I once was told, it is not you it is their sickness. I remind myself everyday and pray to make things get better. I went through alot with my inlaws even when they werent sick. They treated me like a maid and when I didnt want to be one any longer, they treated me like trash. When they both got Alzheimers and Dimensia, I thought they would change and be positive but it got worst. Their son was treated the same way more by his dad than his mom. We took the brunt of it all but, just kept praying and going on. Now his sister treats him like he is not in existance and controls all the parents assets cause of the POA and he is older than her. We dont know why they did what they did but, we just go on and pray. One day it will all come to an end and we just keep praying. Life is unfair but, we just keep focusing on God and doing his will and keep praying, that is all we can do.