My wife an I live in our small house with my MIL (89). She is not infirm but very needy. We can afford an hourly caregiver but we are concerned about how we could best use her services. My wife is at home now being between jobs and I work out of my home office. My MIL is very dependent on my wife and we are trying to introduce the caregiver to allow my wife to be able to leave the house for longer and periods of time or even go out of town on vacation. My MIL refused to go into independent living. She complains about being lonely but refuses to join any activity. She depends on my wife to entertain her.
We have no relatives to help us.