Most facilities are overlooking individuals with a special focus in gerontology to serve our seniors. Marketers, salespersons, and sometimes nurses with no older adult experience are "leaders" and administrators in personal cares, LTC'S , and many other senior services....we expect focused training for those who work with children, why not our Elders?
So I called a hauling group that donates the good stuff and these two young fellows, late teens early 20th were great. They had a lot of patience as there was a group of women residents sitting out front and these two fellows got bombarded with questions :)
Who is moving out?
Why are they moving?
What apartment do they live in?
Is it a 2 bedroom, I want to move to a 2 bedroom?
That sofa isn't junk, why are you putting it on the truck?
Can I have that desk, it looks very nice?
Where are you taking all that stuff?
Can you come to my apartment and take some things?
Is this your full time job?
Do you both go to college?
Later I apologized for all the third degree questions, and the young fellow smiled and said "it makes for an interesting day".
It's because elderly are just seen as just waiting it out until they die so they don't need any special treatment. I especially hate the exorbitant amount that is charged for the cringe worthy treatment in nursing homes. Substandard care for thousands of dollars a month. At least have trained staff to deal with the elderly.
Having been faced with different family members, going through old age diseases and general decline, so many never learn until they are faced with it, and join it the trenches of caregiving as we are all facing now.
Without a doubt, it would be great if there was more focus on our aging population, but clearly there isn't enough public education as there should be!
Veronica, excellent insights, especially this observation:
"there is no magic cure for old age and few attracted to this speciality." I think the attraction has to be for something other than cures (generally speaking, but more broadly interpreted as their basic value). I understand your point, and recognize but don't agree with young people who see old people as burdens or competitors for allocations of funds for social programs.
It should be to honor, support and care for old people as much as young people are, not b/c older people are becoming limited if not debilitated, but just because they are who they are....they're mothers, fathers, grand parents, aunts, uncles, siblings, War Veterans. ... they're people who are entitled to basic respect and not to be denied it b/c for the sole reason that they're old and in some people's minds aren't contributing to society. They've already done that.
I've always found it curious that cultures more in tune with nature have more respect for elders than Americans. Native Americans and some Asian cultures don't push their elders out the door; they revere them. While I can't speak to that many other societies, especially industrialized ones, I think there's an attitude in America that people in the economically nonproductive stages aren't of value as much as money-earners are. There's a lack of appreciation for the intrinsic value of people (as well as of women as that moron who doesn't need to be named has demonstrated through the massive publicity coverage of a lewd, private conversation).
I worked with women and I do stress women as they were middle aged who came into eldercare with maybe a couple of years or less of on the job experience and tried to impose their beliefs on others. The same of course is true of mental health or assisting the poor and disadvantaged. Everyone has to have choices even if they choose not to make the correct choices as required by todays society.
Growing up poor but not realizing it and being old enough to remember the deprivations and rationing of WW11 I am naturally frugal and repurposing otherwise useless is very rewarding for me. But that is just me.
Those who care for the elderly and disabled need to be able to walk a mile in their shoes. I know old parents don't want to move out of their long term homes, take a bath, go to the Dr, eat nourishing meals, use assistive devices. We have to try and understand the reasons or these decisions and not paint ourselves into a corner where we make promises we have no hope of keeping without harming ourselves and our children.
Many on this forum have committed themselves to caring for elderly parents and have created lives of poverty and deprivation for themselves and still have parents who are unappreciative, angry, and generally unhappy. Whatever you do for them they are still that way so my question is why do it? You are not making a difference in their lives and they frequently behave hatefully towards you. So why do it? Is someone going to help you out when you are alone in your 80s - probably not. You will have to rely on the "system" to take care of you so why not make use of the "system' now to take care of your elders while there is still time to save your marriage and your children happiness?
This may sound cruel and heartless and I am in no way criticizing all the wonderful people out there who are making these sacrifices I just think there has to be a better way.
I guess I got of topic here but I really wanted to emphasize that everyone has choices and should not leave it too late to make them. I do understand that the system is broken and needs to be fixed but it is not just about money it is largely about education and everyone taking responsibility as best they can.
Think of someone like the Capt. Life has certainly not been kind to him but he managed to care for his mother and aunt and his own health using the recourses available to him. I bet his bank account is close to zero most of the time and he lives by the seat of his pants but little things give him pleasure and he uses resources presented to him to keep himself fed and sheltered as they cross his path. He gives to others and they in turn give to him. I don't know how often he bathes or changes his clothes but i bet he cleaned himself up to go and get that tat of Jake. He realizes what is important in this life and makes the effort to learn at every opportunity. We can all do well to follow his example and keep learning rather than tut tutting at his profanity.
I will shut up now everyone is different and can only do their best. Hugs to everyone. Oh and don't bother with the hate mail it just makes your fingers tired.
I recently looked into what it would take to get a minimal level of training in gerontology in the U.S. I looked at a gerontology certification program (as opposed to a degree program) at the only university/college that offers such a program in the whole of Chicago. I learned that it's an add-on for a 4 year nursing degree. The majority of LPNs and CNAs that do hands on care for elderly are not 4-yr degree RNs. I thought it was unfortunate that the course wasn't offered to more people as a stand alone area of interest. It's approached as a specialty for higher-trained medical pros.
Just some thoughts.
Garden - I think each of us is the movement because if not us, who? When we as caregivers lead by example in our own families and communities, we are influencing those around us whether they know it or not.
Even the indy living building where my inlaws live has brochures and online ads with models who have white hair but look only barely old enough to meet the 55+ age requirement. Meanwhile, in reality, the dining room is packed with rollators, scooters and walkers all around its perimeter.
Maybe a continuing ed class would be a start. AAA might be a good supporter for seminars on caring for the elderly, not specifically but just generally.
When I hear questions by people who have no hands-on experience with elder care, I think that it's clear they have no idea how intricate, exhausting, time consuming and depressing it can be. I think education should focus on the up side though, and that could require more challenging thought and applications.
I TOTALLY agree about the ads. Buff men and women strolling romantically on the beach, and gregariously hopping about in various sports are so totally NOT representative of old age.
Regardless of how much negativity may be generated by the challenges of old age, I challenge anyone to view her quilts with a dry eye.
Her "Surrounded by Friends and Family" is an especially emotional collection.
She brings old age and dying into the realm of creativity, and does so with gentleness, tenderness and a compassion that I've found compelling.
Google Deidre Scherer, then click on "Surrounded by Friends and Family." Keep a handkerchief or Kleenex handy. "Open Window" is especially powerful.
GA - good points.
NYdil - so agree about society emphasizing youth. It does nothing to prepare us for what will inevitably come if we live into our senior years. Lets get real about this. The media does mislead.
ff I have to agree about many ads. They are laughable. How about telling it closer to how it is for many of us. I think the idea of having an expert come into a home and give advice on how to manage behaviour problems, or even to interview people with problem seniors and give suggestions would be great. I believe it is a more and more relevant topic in society.
I hate the banner at the top of the page that "falls" down as your are scrolling. Isn't there a better way to advertise Namenda?
And the anti-aging skin cream commercials, yikes one of the actresses was only in her 30's. I have to chuckle with one commercial that says the product will make me look 10 years younger. How about a product that makes me look 40 years younger???
At least with the Depend commercials they are using younger actors in their 40's and 50's to promote the product, thus changing how we view the product.
Where my Dad had lived, my gut feeling was the head person of this one nationwide complex never lived through the average caring of an elder, otherwise she wouldn't present herself the way she did. She failed to noticed that many of us adult children were seniors ourselves and could not snap our fingers to get things done regarding our elder parents.
Now the head person of the Memory Care, same national chain, was very caring and would listen... turned out she had not long ago was trying to help her own elderly parents... knew the difficulties of emptying and selling the family home, etc. What a huge difference it made for me knowing she had been there, done that.
Now I am not saying that every employee who works for a elder venue needs to have personal experience, that would be like saying that all school teachers or baby doctors need to have children of their own.
One thing our local newspaper, The Washington Post, has been doing is every now and then have personal caregiving articles related to the elderly. And financial articles, like today the downfall of giving one child the inheritance instead of equally dividing among all the children. The articles are excellent. But I feel the only ones to read those articles are those of us in that situation. A 35 year old would over look it, unless they are elder caregivers.
I remember years ago there was a TV series where a wonderful British woman named Jo [I think] would visit a home to help parents deal with out of control young children. Even though I never had children, I found the series interesting. It would be good to have something similar for helping with elders at home... but I realize that an elder with memory issues could not consent to be on a series, but maybe an actor replacing that person. Something to think about.
I don't necessarily disagree with your points, though, but I wouldn't draw conclusions on someone's else's assumption w/o specific validation and support. I do wonder how you determined that "most facilities are overlooking individuals with a special focus in gerontology..." Did you do a survey, or on what do you base this conclusion? Some of your comments are very broad based, especially those in the second sentence of your post.
This may or may not be an issue; I think it would take a detailed survey project conducted by a reputable company or institution to draw conclusions that are reliable though.
However, this isn't an unusual type of question for this kind of forum. People have experience with a limited number of institutions and draw broad conclusions from that.
I would be interested though in reading of your proposal to address this situation, moving beyond the "why not" to the "how to."