Nobody has indicated they'd come over. 1 says he's broke, but called to say he's willing to meet us somewhere for brunch if we pay. 1 left on a trip. 1 is working. Others not a peep so I invite Mom & myself to join him and family. They hem & ha, but finally pick a place. 6 hrs later, he texts that he has to cancel because his wife is a mother too and he wants her to enjoy her day. The place they're going is not very close, long wait in hot sun, no parking and he thinks it's too small for wheelchairs. BUT we're welcomed to join them. Aggghhhhhh she still has his birthday card from April, he visited her in the hospital once back in February. Aggghhhh why did I even bother?
I'll make Mom her favorite dinner, give her flowers and card, and try to get her outside to enjoy the weather.
My personal classic mother's day message was in the card from my SIL that essentially read "sorry we won't be seeing you on mother's day but it's Grandson's 30th birthday and we're having a big party for him (that you're not invited to)." Though credit where it's due, she had bothered to forge my brother's signature underneath her own. I read out an edited version, waved the picture at mother and put the card out of reach on the mantelpiece where it couldn't do any harm.
Ms.Madge you made me laugh I'm sorry but to be asked on Mother's Day if you're bringing Mom! Everyone else you're right it's a made up holiday & moms day is everyday thank you. Hard to realize they won't change ever & some part of me thought it would be like in the movies. You know a happy ending everyone gathering together to support each other. This is also the last one I need to inform about getting a reverse mortgage & hiring caregivers. It was to be a kill 2 birds with 1 stone but oh well. Life continues and mom is in a good mood today so yay us!
I asked my mom if there was anything that she really wanted in particular this year. She said, "Honey, you just bought me those lovely flowers a couple of weeks ago, then you gave me a beautiful night gown last week to. Oh, and don't forget those books you gave me last month." I do for my mom year round. So, to me, Mother's Day is more about a nice card and spending time together.
If your siblings are avoiding that.....they have problems. If an adult child was not abused as a child, I don't understand refusing to make your mom feel special on Mother's Day, even if it is a contrived holiday.
Some of my mom's friends have been abandoned by their adult children. The adult kids are going out of town, making themselves unavailable. The mom's are left on their own to stay at home or go out to eat alone. We have invited a couple of them to attend OUR celebration.
If you live a great distance away, I can understand how a card or call might be all you can do. It's the thought that counts.
I was never into the go- out- to- eat activity on Mothers Day. Who wants to put up with crowds, screaming kids, etc.? I'd much rather have something from our grill. My sons come over. That's fine!
My mother told me on Christmas that she doesn't want to come to our house anymore. Fine. I'll be bringing her a card and either some grocery store flowers (not a pricey Mothers Day arrangement) or some homemade cookies.
I hear you. Its always hard being the child that actually cares! And wants to do something nice. And try to make it a nice family day. I hate that feel you get afterwards of why did I bother? Why am I such a glutton for punishment? But please know the worlds needs us care bears.
If no one shows up so be it. Try to make it the best day you can for you and your mom. Whatever pleases you, it can just be a glass of wine and a piece of cheesecake for two. Its a day to celebrate your mother and your love for her.
Now I'm half inclined to cancel as it is if I can't get a caregiver to have lunch with mom at her facility for whatever they're doing - they called today and wanted a response - to what I don't know but I'm not spending 10 hours at the hoca so siblings can pretend they did something for her
I'm grouchy -time to go to bed
Do something fun with Mom on Sunday. Restaurants tend to be crowded. Maybe a visit to a park on Sunday, and nice calm meal on Monday.
My mother HATED Mother's Day when I was growing up (her mother adored it).
We send cards. We don't gather. Artificial holiday invented by a greeting card company.
I'm sorry that you've got siblings who don't help.