After 4 years of being live in caregivers for my MIL in her home, it’s time to take the next step in ensuring she has the care she needs/deserves. She has vascular dementia but, has not really lost any memory. We have care 6 days per week in the home but, the frequent incontinence at night has become the issue. Live-in help is unfortunately not an option. We are aware of the roller coaster of emotions we will all be facing but, please share any words of wisdom, from your experiences, to help us navigate through this. Thank you in advance.
Thank goodness for this forum!
Is she willing to move to an AL facility? If so then you should tour a few and then narrow it down to 2.
If she is not willing to move (I do hope that you or your husband is POA and he is legally able to make the decision to place her I would STRONGLY advise against AL. An AL facility is not locked and she can leave at any time. I would think this would be a huge safety issue.
Statistics show that about 60% of people with dementia will wander at least 1 time. half of those who are not found within 24 hours may suffer serious injury or death. Another states that 40% of people that wander were found the dead the next day.