Fourth of July will be on Wednesday. Are you planning to do something with your loved ones who are in an AL/NH facility on the Fourth of July, like watch fireworks? How are your loved ones who have dementia/Alzheimer’s coping with the fireworks being shot off by the neighbors?
Mom and I live in a town of 10,000, and our town has their Fireworks Celebration on July 3rd because a neighboring town has a BIG ALL DAY FOURTH of JULY celebration and a HUGE fireworks display on July 4th. Since 2008, Mom and I would sit in our car in a parking lot where we could see our town's fireworks easily. Last year, Mom was in the NH and the Activity Dept. encouraged families to come and take their family member(s) to the backyard of the facility so we could all watch the fireworks being shot off at the County Fairgrounds across the street (which we did and Mom really enjoyed that). Mom has always enjoyed watching the fireworks and we would also watch the Fireworks TV programs from Boston and Washington DC.
But this year is different. Mom’s vision has gotten worse b/c of her macular degeneration. And Mom has trouble comprehending everyday activities b/c of her Major Depression with Delusions and Mild Dementia. I am not sure that she would even tolerate staying up until 10 PM to watch the fireworks. I don’t know what to do this year.
My brother and SIL will be visiting from out of state later this week and they usually eat with Mom at the NH. I don’t like to eat with Mom at the NH anymore b/c she has to have ground meat and her hands shake and she spills food frequently. I used to be able to tolerate it, but I can’t anymore. When my brother & SIL visit, we often eat in the Resident Dining Room with Mom. They sit on either side of Mom and I sit next to my SIL at a square table. I have to talk louder b/c Mom can’t hear me, but my brother frowns at me and tells me “Don’t talk so loud.” So I don’t go with them anymore when they have a meal with Mom.
It really hurts that Mom and I can’t celebrate Fourth of July like we used to. I am crying as I write this post. How will you celebrate Fourth of July with your loved ones?