This is a voice for you to be heard.
And show to others.
I saw a video on dementia and people were commenting on how the wife wasn't so nice to her husband's elderly mom. For instance, when the wife says to her husband that she's tired of doing her laundry, etc.
On the surface, she looks rude.
What people don't understand is the burn out spouses feel.
They get married, and then their spouses' attention is split between two people.
While we should understand how the elder feels. We should also understand how others feel.
Before taking care of a parent, talk to your spouse first, so you are on the same page.
Be a team. If you both decide to help, work together.
Be understanding of both the parent and each other.
And hire professional help, so the parent has the care they need, while you also take care of your marriage.
If the parent needs more help, a care facility should be looked into.
All the best everyone