My husband and I care for his father who is 88 with beginning stages of dementia. My father in law used to enjoy going to the VFW to socialize and drink his non alcoholic beer. We would drive him there and pick him up after about an hour or so. Last month we got a call saying he had fell off the barstool when he tried to get up. Needless to say he fractured his back in the process. So much for socializing.
After 2 weeks in the hospital, he went to a rehab facility for 3 weeks and now we have him back home.
His dementia has gotten worse, especially in the evening. He gets sundowners syndrome, where he starts getting delusional and tries to get up and out of bed all through the night. He will fall if he gets out on his own. The hospital bed with rails helps keep him in bed all night, and the baby monitor helps to hear what he's doing. But every moan and groan whas getting us up to check on him. Now we have a camera in his closet looking at his bed with a monitor in our bedroom. It helps alot to be able to see what he's doing. On top of all this he became constipated from the pain meds. We took him to the emergency room yesterday and he is severly impacted. The constipation meds kicked in last night and all day today. Talk about a mess!!! I was up with him all night, and this morning my husband took over so I could finally get to bed and sleep.
It's very hard taking caren of a loved family member, but at the same time it's heart warming knowing we're doing all we'rte capable of. If and when it gets to be too much, we will have to think about other arrangements. We are looking now just to make sure we're ready if needed.
I really appreciate websites such as this one, where us caregivers have a place tob vent, or ask questions or just get support.
Thank You to everyone who contributes.