Last night my mother in law called sobbing that they can't make it to christmas because someone broke in and stole her jewlery. We knew it would be some excuse but the sobs were just heart breaking. We never see them - there's always a last minute crisis - all dementia related. She has yet to see a doctor - it's been 3 years. She makes excuses or creates crisis at the last minute for doc appointments. Why am I angry? Her husband my FIL caves to her every wim and won't force her to get help . He gets angry if we even try to suggest something. He protects her and is bad at it. I'm seriously thinking of calling APS although she calls the police so often I'm sure they know the situation. This gas been going on for years!