As i posted before my parents live about 90 miles from me in a somewhat isolated area. My dad has beginning stage dementia and they refuse to downsize or move closer to me. I am the closest sibling...the others live over a10 hour drive away in different states.
I finally found them a caregiver...which is not easy to find in that area...well..she quit yesterday. I also found them a guy to mow their 3/4 acre lawn..he also did not show up this week.
My sister was here last week..spent only one day with us and took off. My brother says he will come in july if the stars line up just right and he can get away from work. So basically they are around but not really...and only minimally.
When i tell them the caregiver quit they say...ahhh..thats too bad. Then go about there carefree lives as if nothing happened.
My sister says blah blah you should tell them to move closer ..not fair to you..blah blah. Well..bye..dont want to miss my flight. Got to get ready for my next vacation.
My moms younger sister lives as close to them as i do...but she only goes there every couple of months...when the stars align just right. Now she will call my mom regularly and lecture her on useless topics but that is as far as that goes. She is retired..and i have a full time, stresss filled job...oh..my sister is also not working.
Im not asking for much..just to not have the entire load on my shoulders. My sister was telling me i should call this person or that...i told her you dont have to live close to them to make calls. The trouble is that she makes a few calls..a few minutes out of her day..then when it doesnt work out she shrugs and gies back to her life.
When she was leaving last week i said how it must be nice to just leave all these problems behind and go off to her life. She said...welll...i....dont...know what to say. Ok..ready to go to bed.
Anyway just wanted to get this off my chest..its been a tough week. My parents are turning into a full time job...one that im not handling well at all.