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Good evening all hope that you had a good day. My day was not to bad but for some reason tonight I cannot get anything done that I want to do. My mom has gone to bed and I got some lessons ( I am taking a online class for medical coding) And I am half way there and cannot concentrate. I took my own version of a Spring break and am having trouble getting back into the books. While I am having my Spring break mom has a small heart attack and spent a few days in the hospital and then I am thinking I wanted a break but not like this. Wellshe is back home and is on a few more meds and one of them makes her pee all day long and she needs help getting to the bathroom and pulling up her depends ( she calls them her panties) lol and them I have to empty the ostomy bag to. I cannot get back into the books and I am paying for this!And she has to go to the bathroom often even in the middle of the night so I have to get up and help her. I AM THE ONLY ONE WE HAVE NO FAMILY IN OUR STATE......I have finally asked for help to come in a few times a week to help out and will be glad when it starts. My mom is 95 she has a birthday next month and after that I am planning me some much needed respite. I was planning on going to visit some family/ friends but I have to take care of some medical issues for me so that will be the best time to do this for me and my health. My mom has dementia wears hearing aids and uses a walker and wears glasses and the ostomy pouch and is usually quiet until she needs you to do something for her and is always in a hurry. There are other issues to like my kids do not hear from them that's all I will say painful..:-( but I will keep standing no matter what just feeling a little frustrated tonight having me a glass of wine and when I am done with this taking me a hot bath and good night for me because it starts all over tomorrow. Taking this respite will be a good thing for me I just hope that she will not try any tricks like not getting in the car ( I do not plan on telling her till we get there she says that she understands and this is a lot for me but......we will see) And on the friends well they have disappeared mostly get a phone call just to "check in" see how I am doing and mom do not want to hear much of anything that I am going through so I have to keep it short...I don't blame them but you say you are my friend?. Having a relationship that is out of the question ( did have one about 5 years ago be he got tired and he left broke my heart .) Just feeling frustrated and got on this site and to vent /talk about my feelings . I am going to close for now to be continued.........God Bless you all goodnight......Purplerain

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Purplerain I commend you for trying to complete your coursework along with being a primary caretaker. You are correct; friends eventually disappear because they don't understand. As we all know, no one understands our journey if they have not taken the walk. Nothing wrong with a little wind down time. Please take care if yourself during this process as best you can and when you meet people who say how can I help, don't be afraid to ask them to drop off something for lunch or dinner. As you know, every free minute counts! Blessings of success to you.
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Jeanette absolutely no offense taken.!
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JeanetteB you didn't offend me,,,,
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My apologies in regards to the language I used. Aging Care normally bleeps it out!!
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My only request today is that we have mercy on each other. No two people's burden is the same.This is mostly a nonjudgemental site but occasionally some people feel the need to be somewhat critical. I still thinks this behavior comes from their own fears and stress.Lets just take it easy on each other.
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My only request today is that we have mercy on each other. No two people's burden is the same.This is mostly a nonjudgemental site but occasionally some people feel the need to be somewhat critical. I still thinks this behavior comes from their own fears and stress.Lets just take it easy on each other.
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Beautifully said musiclover1211...
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Purplerrain my heart goes out to you. I can so identify with some of your words. Friends seem to not stay attentive and really can get burned out quickly if we try to vent so I too keep it short and deal with things on my own. Relationships while caring for an aging parent in your home are so difficult. You get torn between your care giving and the other person. You do need respite. You so deserve it. My mother is narcissistic and we have lived together going on three years. My significant other left me and believe me it was the right decision. I couldn't expect they put up with my mothers sour moods. I don't agree with anyone putting their religious views on these posts. A higher power would not want suffering and adult children were not born to suffer for their parents! This is not all about the one who requires care!!! What about the caregivers?? It is not selfish to set boundaries and try to carve out some ME time. Life is short! My heart goes out to you.
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The woman across the road is a bible thumping looney tune, smokes like a chimney and drinks like a fish,, always cornering you spouting and if you commented or disagreed she'd jump up and down and rage. One summer afternoon I threw her screaming butski off my front lawn and she hasn't come near me since. Problem solved :)
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Caregiver14 you are rude!! Just because you have a problem with alcohol doesn't mean we all do!

I also spot red flags in your reply which indicate to me that you live in a glass house..

Even Jesus drank wine...
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