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I don’t know what to do or what will happen. My father is in a facility in another state. We text on a daily basis and they’re not productive texts. Mostly how he hasn’t gotten his meds or food and for me to get ahold of his social worker about this. The allegations are false. I investigated it. Anyways, I received a phone call from his social worker yesterday and was told that he has been very verbally abusive to the staff-cussing and calling them names, including racist names and that he will not stop. She said that she’s calling for an emergency appointment with a psychiatrist which I was ok with but wanted to be part of the visit. My question is, what will they do if he doesn’t stop? He’s on Medicaid and is in a facility that primarily takes Medicare & Medicaid.

It amazes me that there is a facility that doesn't understand that someone with dementia has ZERO control over their mentation and the words that come out of their mouths.

I guess that there are circumstances, and they will be enumerated in the facility paperwork and contracts, under which a resident can be asked to be placed in some other type of care, or leave this facility, but this sounds more to me like a case where some medications for calming anxiety would be appropriate. This sounds like a fearful demented person completely out of control of himself, and very anxious.

I agree with Geaton that this question belongs in questions section, and am self reporting to bring it to the attention of admins.
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https://story.californiasunday.com/covid-life-care-center-kirkland-washington/

Being called racist names and being cussed at was part of many aides’ experience with Twilla, a Medicaid patient. They didn’t demand that Twilla be drugged over that.Dementia brains lose their filters and a lot of people with it believe they’re in a world where things seen as slurs were actually mainstream.
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Ask to be present by phone, facetime, or zoom. They psychiatrist needs to prescribe medications to calm your father's anger and agitation. This is for his benefit -- imagine how awful for him to live in such an angry mindset. Have the doctor explain to you and the staff how long it will take for the medications to start working, Ask for him (or her) to be ready to adjust the medications if necessary. It might be possible to give something faster-working short-term while the long-term ones take effect.

I know this is very frustrating. Hang in there. Let us know how it goes.
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