My 89 yr old father in law lives with us. I quit my job four years ago to watch over him. He has no real health issues Slight on set of dementia. Dr says he will out last all of us. He likes to act helpless when my husband comes home. Has no problems walking getting out of chair eating etc but when husband get home he is helpless. He is hardly ever sick but when his two daughters call he tries to get sympathy by saying he is sick in bed no one has fed him, cant walk. they believe him. my husband calls him on his behavior but the girls will not believe us on his actions. When my FIL is staying with someone else when we are out he is a perfect gentlemen. Not sure how to deal with his being trouble for us at home. We even put him in a nursing home for a week to let him see how good he has it wilth us. He has his own room with onsight bath, meals, outings, all his bills paid for, family and friends around to visit with. Not sure what more we can do to get him to have some respect for us and the home. He refuses to do anything we ask of him. Remove dirty shoes, flush his toliet, eat properly, normal home living situtations.