family not paying for nursing home for dad spinding money instead

if the father is in a nursing home, speak to the administrator to make certain you have all of the facts, can ascertain whether the bills for care are being paid. You may also contact the LTC ombudsman as they are knowledgable about resources in cases of financial abuse. Make certain of your facts, document them and hopefully you have enought leverage to mediate with the family member before it puts the father in jeopardy or creates a precarious situation that does nothing for the elder.

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