I am a full time caregiver of my grandpa who has dementia. My grandpa is a very difficult man to take care of. My aunt (his daughter) thinks she can drop by at anytime at his house without calling first. I don't like to be disturbed while I am "working". Yes I'm sure many of you will agree that caregiving is hard WORK! I even have told my mom and my sister to tell my aunt to call first before she drops by but she has no regard and she thinks she doesn't have to call or it's not important for her to do so but to me it is rude. She even interrupted our dinner by stopping by with her and her kids and I was not prepared for any visitors. It go to the point where I recently locked the garage door while I'm on "duty" because my aunt has a garage opener to the house: and I put a sign on it that says "If door is locked, call or text (me) first because we may not be home. Better to call/text in advance to ensure someone is home."
I even turned off the doorbell ringer so my grandpa doesn't answer the door to strangers and let them in.
Even my grandpa's home nurse tries to visit without giving me in advanced notice when she's coming over. She stops by when "she's available". Then she complains to my mom (grandpa's older daughter) that I didn't answer the door. Well my answer is, I was never aware that the nurse was coming by and she didn't schedule an appointment with me and 2nd the ringer was off. 3rd let me know in advance so I when you're coming and call me on the phone.
Anywho, if my aunt was the one caring for grandpa full time or when it is her turn, she can set her own rules but for me. All I ask is that people call first before my work gets interrupted.