They think he's an accident waiting to happen because he shows up for meetings at the wrong time, gets very confused, etc. I guess my sister and I have been in denial but maybe it's time (he's 82). He lives alone, drives and loves it. We think it may make sense to make arrangements to move in with one of us. How do we tell him so he knows its in his best interest without him thinking that everyone thinks he's losing it?
Strongly recommend you and your sister have a Family Meeting ASAP to work out a Caring Plan. A good guide for this is the book "Caring for your Parents" by Hugh Delehanty and Elinor Ginzler. You both have a lot more to consider than who dad should stay with during his final days. And don't be surprised if he rejects every solution you finally present to him. You are entering the stage of family life known as "role reversal" This simply means it is now your turn to step up to the plate and take care of dad despite himself. Like a child, he may stubbornly resist actions any responsible adult would take; try telling him it is time to turn in his car keys and see what happens. Yet you know he poses a danger to himself and to others on the road. So you have to do what is right even tough it seems wrong to buck your own father.