I moved in with my 83 year old aunt..upstairs, she was helping me I was helping her. And I am burned out. She is lonely, angry, shouldn't drive, needs more help then I can give. She has tons of money and insurance, however since I am here she refuses to admit that she needs more help, even when I gently suggest her hiring a part time care taker. I have resorted to just ignoring her most of the time, because I don't know what to do. Her family and my owns attitude is, " so leave her, she will be fine..." and in reality she won't. and that is not my point. anyway - so very sad, all of this. and it doesnt have to be.
So as you can see, this is complicated. And I am kind of exhausted. I believe my biggest frustration is the attitude from her siblings and my own, " well thats her, she is difficult, good luck..." anyway. can I survive? yes. and this thread just shows me that perhaps I should take her at her words which change daily..." just leave me alone.." not trying to save her, just find it difficult...to watch see, etc. oh, and she is a successful alcholocic ...
How are you helping her?
Is ignoring her helping her loneliness or anger?
What's in it for you?
Does she have a living will? Who are the beneficiaries?
Are you legally listed to benefit from an inheritance?
How long have you been living with your Aunt?
Was she surviving before you moved in with her?
What makes you think she will not survive if you move out?
Can you survive if you move out of her house?