My ex's mom is disabled and has dementia. She needs to be seen by a doctor and get approved for Medicaid. It took her daughter 2 months to finally complete the app and has since ben denied. The daughter is not helping out at all. I am commuting back home once or twice a week and having to pay for a caregiver in order to do this. I have helped them both as much as I can. They act like I will be here forever to take care of her instead of addressing what really needs to be done. Her daughter has chronic back pain etc and not able/should not lift her. I feel sorry for both of them. But feel like I've done all I can. I help her pay her bills, pay for groceries, repairs to the house, etc. I feel so used. No one else in her family is capable of helping her. Twin sister not able. Brother not able. Daughter not able. It aggrevates me she can spend money to go shopping but doesn't help me with a thing. Her daughter hasn't work for 4 years, has no insurance and i continue to pay her expenses, now her moms. It's got to stop. Every time I try to address it in a conversation she gets angry(daughter). I am at the end of my rope. help! The woman that's been helping 1 to 2 times a week has quit several times and now has quit again. My job at work was eliminated effective 1/31 and I have been here since 2/1 (and off and on after her husband passed between 1/21-2/1. ) I have had 3 job offers but can't take the job. I can't draw unemployment because I am not able to work. I am at a loss.