My husband with ALZ passed away two months ago. After caring for him in our home for four years, I reached the point where I couldn't do it anymore. I was actually concerned I was going to die before he did from the stress. He was in a national chain MC facility for four days, then sent to the hospital for a "psych evaluation" when he was deemed "unmanageable". The facility doctor had quadrupled his Seroquel dose the 2nd day he was there (possible connection to his behavioral changes?) After two nights in the hospital he went into a private home care facility and died two days later. Prior to all this, I had visited multiple MC facilities and was told by each one that it is best to not visit for the first few weeks and give the person a chance to "bond" with the staff. I was so desperate for a break that I did not process how ridiculous this procedure really is. So you take someone you love that is 100% dependent on you for absolutely everything, and you drop them off in a strange place with strange people and their new caregivers are mostly minimally trained workers barely making minimum wage? And you're asked to not visit while they are "settling in". I would not send my dogs to live with strangers if they became ill, and yet this is how I dealt with my husband's last days on earth? I am so consumed by guilt I can barely breathe. I live in Florida, and Memory Care places are popping up all around me. They charge $4000 to $6000/month. My new personal challenge is to become much more knowledgeable about how these places are regulated and the quality of the oversight provided by the state of Florida. Based on my experience, it is very expensive warehousing of the most vulnerable, and anyone that reads the stages of ALZ knows there will be challenges, especially in the later stages. If a facility can't handle those challenges, what is their reason for existing? Thank you for letting me vent, and if you're looking for MC for your loved one, please be careful.