Even though my mother just turned 94 Sunday it has been hard for me to accept she is bedridden after a recent week long hospitalization.

Your Mom is so lucky to have your love, your mourning, your anticipatory grief; she clearly was much loved by you. I know that in your rational mind you know how lucky she was to have a long life of independence and your love and support to the end. She is tired now. There is no upside to this suffering. I hope she has palliative care and comfort care to put her below this anxiety of getting to a bathroom, etc. We can sure a lot of things, but we cannot cure age. We will all die. Few of us will be so lucky to have someone like you caring and loving us to the end. It is very hard to survive the pain and anquish of those we love toward the end. Please discuss with Palliative Care and Hospice how now to make your Mom comfortable for her last time on earth. My heart goes out to you. We should all be so lucky to have your love. There is no way to make any of this easy.

Thank you so very much for your kind words.

I am sorry about this, and very sorry that you are having a problem dealing with the inevitable. Unfortunately, we are all born to die, we do not have the power to change this course of life. Be comforted that she has lived a very long time and for the most part has been in good health. I wish you the best!

Countrygal55, I know what you are going through. Also an only child, as there is no one to past the baton onto. It felt like it was over-night that my parents [95+] were still walking 2 miles a day come rain or shine. And before I knew it, Mom was in long-term-care, and Dad was selling their house so he could move into senior living.

I remember some time ago, someone said that when our parents get into those upper years, every year is like ten years. Thus, they will age pretty quickly.

As my Dad would say "it's the circle of life".