I've been MIA for a few months but I am really at a loss on how to deal the heavy impact Mom's hallucinations are having on her emotionally, psychologically and, even physically. So I'm looking for advice.
I understand Mom's reality is valid to her. Unfortunately, she believes her hallucinated "kids" are disrespectful, disobedient, and refuse to give her information she is demanding. She wants to know a phone number where their families can be contacted, a family name, an address, etc. She gets angry because "they" can be gone for days at a time and she can't control what happens to them and she doesn't want them to be in any trouble.
These things upset her to the point that she goes out - with purpose - not "wandering" - looking for these kids. At this point, she may get a block away and then realizes she has no idea where to look or even "who" she's trying to find as she doesn't know any names.
I am afraid for her and I can't be there physically. We do have in home care part time (which is all she will tolerate right now). The CG is aware of the problems and tries to help. But......
My siblings and I are in agreement on a lot of what we're doing. We are equally confused on what to do about this particular concern.
We made a decision to put moving Mom against her wishes out of the picture because we all agree, taking her out of her familiar surroundings will deteriorate her quality of life rather than improve it. She doesn't do well in unfamiliar surroundings. We have proof positive of this. If she can't be doing the dishes or cleaning windows, etc., she has no purpose in life.
Any comments and advice will be most appreciated.
Thanks. Carolyn aka Bee