Due to health problems I had a hysterectomy years ago and I dont have biological children but I married a man who has 2 adult children and 6 grands. I have been a part of 4 of my grandkids' lives since their births and we have a strong relationship.
My mom got upset with me one day because I made plans to take my grandkids out and mom wanted me to take her somewhere different. I told her I had already made plans for that day but I would take her another day. What mom wanted to do was not urgent. I take her out of her AL facility very often- more than the other residence's family members take them out so I don't neglect her.
She called me and told me that if I had not chosen to have a hysterectomy then I would have had my own kids and grandkids and I don't need to deal with my husband's grands and I need to take her to where she wanted to go.
That really hurt and I let her know that. She apologized but it still hurts and I'm struggling with getting over it.
She is so narcissitic that she says a lot of hurtful things to me if I don't do what she wants me to do when she wants me to do it.
She has stage 1 dementia but she remembers what she saysbecause she tells other people about it and wants them to call me and tell me she's right.
I hate to think of how difficult she will be when the dementia peaks.
I don't go around her much anymore to just sit and visit because she complains complains complains about everything and everybody who doesnt cater to her.
I'm trying to be agood daughter- I'm the only one close enough to care for her. But it is getting harder and harder.