My father and mother have both been in nursing home care for over 2 years now. Mum has Alzheimer’s probably about stage 7 now. She is 87. Dad has vascular dementia and is almost completely blind. He is 90 soon. Lately he has gone downhill, becoming more confused and angry, often refusing his drugs which he needs to help his mood and his heart problems. He has become very panicky and it breaks my heart to find him in tears when I visit. He keeps saying he needs to get out of the place but doesn’t know how. I feel so guilty. I would love to take him home but am elderly myself and certainly couldn’t manage him at home. My home is not suitable for him either as it is old and quirky with stairs. He would need supervision 24/7 which I would find difficult to give. I found it extremely difficult to try and look after them both before they went to the nursing home as they refused to accept any outside help, only mine. This is devastating watching his misery and being helpless.