My father passed away this weekend. As we started trying to help my mother prepare for visitors, family members discovered something I have been asking for help with for years. What the rest of my siblings have referred to as pack rat issues are really serious hoarding problems complete with a huge mouse infestation and cleanliness issues.The house is very large and is in the country. My father has been in the hospital for over 7 months and the house has become worse during that time.It was already packed with "stuff" but was cleaner until the last year. I have begged mom to let me help but she will not and becomes angry. I will be mom's primary caretaker from now on since everyone else lives far away. My siblings have become hostile when I have asked for help, but I know something must change. I have asthma and cannot spend the night or any length of time with her in her house although I love her dearly and would like to do so. My father was aware of the problem and tried to change things prior to his strokes. How can I handle this situation? I am grieving for my father and want to help my mother in a loving way.