due to being told last month my mum now needs to go into a nursing home, she had a carer 3 times daily as well as my sister or myself being there daily, her falls were numerous, black eyes, broken nose,etc. we had alarms fitted, bed in the sitting room, stairs blocked off, we did all we could do.2 weeks ago we emptied her house, furniture going to the elderly who were in need,also a lot of clothes were collected by her carers who will divide them out to the needy. when I went down on Thursday to take final meter readings it was heartbreaking. seeing an empty house, remembering where my late father sat watching tv. all the memories that we had there as a family, it really got to me.at the moment she is still in hospital as there are no placements available yet. I visited on fri and she was shouting she was going home, she kept saying she would be better of dead. her sister was with me at the time, despite speaking to her and telling her she was being cared for in the hospital, she remained aggressive. I went yesterday to visit her hoping she would be in a better mood, but she was worst. I took in the watch she wanted, she told me
(keep it). I told her I brought in a radio to listen too, she told me (stick it). the nurse heard her attitude and asked if she was in any pain? she said no and even if I was I wouldn't tell you, you are all selfish pigs, the lot of you.the nurse spoke gently to her asking are you not going to speak to youre daughter, she said no. I said to the nurse making sure my mum heard me, I don't know why I bother coming maybe I should leave and let her sleep, my mother then asked me to take her jewellery home in case it went missing, I tried making conversation but it was difficult as she remained very dry. she allways had mood swings even before dementia set in, very selfish, yet she wants for nothing. we have spoilt her for years. my late father was allways grateful for us visiting him, despite being in pain he kept his sense of humour, whereas my mother it is allways her way or the high way. I understand she is missing home, I cannot tell her she wont be going back, false hope is better than none at all, the doctor told her on many occasions, as did my sister but my mother remains oblivious to this. im away from home visiting her for 5 hrs, the time it takes to get there and back and also sitting with my mum. I feel angry and hurt for the comments she makes, today my nephew is going in to give me a break, my other sister will visit tonight, tomorrow it is myself and im dreading it.there are people there who have no visitors at all, I guess that is what makes me so angry with my mother.