I am the oldest daughter of my father who has multiple myeloma (IGG specific) and he is in the hospital with a breakage of his femoral ball and socket bone. My father is waking a little but he has lesions that make his bones brittle. He can barely get out of the waterbed and when he tried to do it his bone broke. He went over a week without going to the hospital. He finally did and they found out and immediately did surgery. He is recovering slowly and they want to get in home care and my step mom said she does not know if she want’s him to come home just yet because they are not equipped to handle him right now and I understand that. She really does not know what is going on because of COVID and he is isolated in the hospital and she can’t get a hold of his doctor. She called me tonight and she said they don’t know if there are any beds available for him because everything is booked and that she would have to have him sleep on the futon and would put a foam pad. I told her that he can’t do that that he needs a medical bed that can position him to be able to get out of the bed so he won’t break another bone as his bones are brittle. She became upset and got irritated with me. I asked her if she need me to come out to help get a room ready for him so he had a place to sleep (he can’t sleep in their waterbed) She said “no we have it handled” after she complained to me before that that they could not get anywhere to coordinate. I finally told her well I don’t know what to tell you I have offered to come out to get a room ready to help you and you don’t want me out there so I am not sure what I can do being 1700 miles away. My stepsisters have been trying to get a hold of the doctors but I told her that under HIPAA the doctor will not talk to them and she started to argue with me on that. Finally she said “If I really thought you needed to come out I would tell you”. It really hurt my feelings. That is my father and I would like to help but she has pretty much pushed me out of the whole thing and this has been a consistent pattern since they married she has always treated me like I don’t belong in the family and mostly her daughters and her ignore me all of the time and treat me like I am not part of the family. I am grieving because my dad is at the end of his life and I would like to be a part of it in some way to say goodbye and help him. I am pretty sad about this whole thing.