My common sense knows my mother can't help her lack of eyesight, diminished hearing and lack of mobility. I mentally have to swallow my resentment at least once a day knowing I was there when she refused to care for either of my grandmothers when their time came as well as she handed my dad over to me after 3 weeks of intense treatment for esophageal adenocarcinoma. I'm brought right back to when my kids were very little and you lay down at night and say "tomorrow I will be more patient and more happy".... then they wake-up !!!!