When my daughters lovingly say to me, “Mom, you sound like grandma. She spoke to you like you were a child. You told her that you were a grown woman. I am no longer your child. I’ll be fine.”
After hearing their words, I know that I need to concentrate on watching what I tell them.
Recently, my daughter told me that she was taking a road trip from Denver to Vail. I found myself telling her how nervous I was about her driving all alone in a mountainous area and expressed concern. I love her and started to worry about her.
She told me that she was going to stay on the interstate and it was a safe drive. Her friend who has experience driving in the mountains was going to drive on the mountain roads when she arrived to show her around.
We do have to break cycles. I realized that I overreacted and told her that I was confident in her driving and to have a great time.
I think I had a flashback from when she was a teenager and had a horrible accident and I saw her covered in blood in the hospital.
I don’t ever want to become a parent riddled with anxiety like my mom who worries about everything! Excessive stress makes people miserable and it makes those around them miserable too.
I have always been close to my girls. They confide in me. I want to make sure that I continue healthy communication with them.
Every now and then I do catch myself saying something just like my mom!
Have any of you ever been afraid of turning into your mom as you age? Hahaha 😆