This has been going on since June when he was on a large dose of Remeron. The side effects for him included hyper sexuality. He is now stable on a lower dose.I spoke to the social worker at the snf about it. She investigated and said the infatuation is all on my husband's part. However, this staff person stares at us when I visit. She is old enough to be his granddaughter and appears ro be mentally slow.. I can't take it any longer. He says he loves me and I still love him. I'm tired of this nastiness. I want a divorce. How much does the divorce cost in California? All of the assets are in my name. I would be willing to pay some alimony, although I'm barely making myself due to his medical bills. He neglected to take medicare part B. We've been married for 25 years and it was a good loving marriage. This is a nightmare.
A friend of mine had her husband in a nursing home, and he was shamelessly flirting with the old ladies there. They had been married for 40+ years, and this was just the last straw. She walked in and said, "As far as I am concerned, we are divorced." She did not divorce him, and she did not quit taking care of him (another two or three years, and not all of them in a nursing home). Oddly enough, she said the sense of responsibility she felt for him lifted, and she did what she did for him because she wanted to, not because she felt obligated to as his wife.
She's retarded and Remeron is raising his flag? Don't divorce him; just have his medication changed or readjusted. Moving him might not make much of a difference because there's something she wants; and it has nothing to do with love.
As far as a divorce in California (I got married in San Diego while in the USMC), my understanding is that everything is split down the middle. Doesn't matter who had what when they tied the knot.
Next time you visit, dress like a vixen.