I wonder if there is a different mind set if our Mother was a career woman her whole life or if she was a stay-at-home-Mom for most or all of her marriage.
Does the elder career woman understand how busy her children's schedules are, and how little time there is to help, thus she will make better choices for her aging years? Or not?
I know my parents never caught on that when I was working 8 hours, not counting commute time, that I only had limited time to maintain my own house/yard and run my own errands on the weekends.... thus my time helping my parents was crammed into a busy schedule... I didn't have time to breathe.
I know Dad was clueless because he always came home to a clean house, ironed shirts, and a hot meal after work. He never realized I had to do all those things PLUS put in an 8-9 hour day at the office. Must be those gremlins that come out at night to do all those things :P