I have my mother living with me for about two months, I just built a house so I could take her in. I am alone so of course my other sisters here in town just think it's not a hardship to have mom here. They should try it for a day or two but instead they get to go on with their lives and come and go as they please which is bad enough but then I get alot of advice but not much help except when they feel like spending an hour or so with her. I work outside the home and have to have someone come in for 3 hours a day so she isn't alone for a really long time. My mother is a kind person but it gets so hard to hear the same 10 things repeated all day everyday. I find myself getting so frustrated with her that it's driving me nuts. I wonder if I made a huge mistake.
Repeating the same stories now for three years… I find myself drifting off during his stories… but every now and then he says something new… I usually just act as if it is the first time I have heard it with comments like OH REALLY… I try to keep him from getting frustrated, he is really hard to deal with when he get frustrated… I will keep you in my prayers…
don't tell her about her problem it is the best way to keep peace. unfortunitly you have to keep answering the same old questions. i am right beside you with the same issue. it does irritate me but i just try to stay calm.
Our family chiropractor advised me to take 15 to 20 minutes a day for myself to meditate - he even offered to loan me his last meditation vcr tape! Luckily, I don't need directed meditation and can self-direct. I have been mostly successful at least at trying to meditate almost every day and I have to say that it has helped a lot!
The point is, you need to somehow release the tension of your mom's repitition. Realize that for her, each time is the first time. Very small children also engage in repittiosness: for example they can watch the same film over and over and over ad infinitum. You need an outlet for the tension because you can't count on anyone but yourself and trying to when they can't or won't help just builds more tension.
Good luck. I know we all need it!