My mom has dementia and we had to take away her car, checking account and now she feels she has nothing and is not even a person anymore. She is in a retirement home and calls me regularly accusing my brothers and sister of being so mean to her and taking her money. She cries all the time when she talks to me and wants me to open a bank acct. with her. I am in a delima, I spoke to my siblings last night and they told my why they took all of her privileges away. My sister is the Power of Attorney and goes to visit her often but since my mom will not let go of the Bank issue she is just lost because my mother talks so mean to her. I trust my siblings and know they are treating my mother fairly with money. My mom did not tell me about some of the money issues she has had in handling her own checking account. How can I get her focused off the Banking Acct/Money issue without hurting her feelings. My mother tells me she is depressed, is on her last nerve or she just wants to give up. My siblings have tried to make her happy but it is just not working. Now I need to talk to my mom and let her know that I am not going to open a bank account with her but I really don't want to her here cry.
My father died of Alzheimers in 2010 and she was the care giver before we had to put him in a nursing home. So she was always in charge of the money in the house.