She has home care for breakfast and meds each day and supper twice a week. I check on her, take her for groceries and doctor appointments and cook for her the rest. She always was a great cook, obviously not any more. She keeps bugging me about when we can go and get another stove and I "pass the buck" onto her 3 boys. (who totally ignore her requests) I keep telling her that there is something wrong with the breaker box, obviously she sees us turning the switch on before and after we cook. I have it covered in duck tape now except for the stove switch. She still tries to flip switches, to fix the stove and on separate occasions, (1.) thawed out the freezer and (2.)thought her microwave and washer/dryer quit working as well as the TV and other appliances. Do you think she remembers asking me previously about a new stove? Is there an answer that will satisfy her or will she keep bugging because of the dementia?
She still is very clean about herself and her house.

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Thx. What you say makes a lot of sense to me, I will try the truth. She already knows (somewhat) that she can no longer cook. What she does come up with at times is pretty scary looking. I will try to tell her the truth about the switch box. Thx. again.................

Unfortunately, from my experience - don't think the answer about the breaker box will ever work. I don't think any answer will satisfy her enough to stop asking about getting a new stove. A lot depends on the personality of the person before the dementia. If they are strong willed to begin with; it is more difficult than with an easier going personality. Although, dementia can get the best of the best as well.

My MIL was similar before she came to live with us and we had a difficult time with her as well with stove, car, etc. In the end, even though we had to repeatedly say it, we told her the truth about what was happening and that it was no longer safe to use the stove, drive a car, etc. - doctors orders. She fought us every step of the way. It would have been much easier to just give in; of course that is not an option when trying to keep them safe. I learned as best I could to change the subject and often just be on the receiving end of her frustration; which was not pleasant at all.

But, after a while, she seemed to go along with what we had to do; however, it was not too too long before she could not be alone any longer. Take care.

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