My mother has no short term memory. Her little patio home is paid off. She wants me to move in with her....i want to sell her home and invest the money...and us find a place to rent (for now) near my son and niece (i am near them now) so i have help when needed. My current home is not set up in a way she would need. I feel guilty about telling hwr no...guess its still the child in me. Im afraid if she eventually does agree to move, she will still be resentful and angry and sad about it. Does anyone else struggle with having to go against the parent, even though you know its necessary...or does it just become easier over time, or do you just shut down emotions in order to do it. Mom is 85, im 58, and she now lives about 20 miles away. I do her shopping, and take her to dr appts, do her checkbook, etc. I have POA so i can make the decisions but dread having to force things on her, even when i know i will have to in her best interest.