My parents moved in with me 3 years ago - and few months ago I moved them to assisted living. During the 3 years that they were with me, I had to rely on my son and DIL to handle our family business. Lots of doctors, hospitals, rehab, tests and physical therapy for my parents. I was never at our business, never with my grandchildren and always taking care of my parents. Three months ago, my DIL filed for divorce from my son. I am convinced that part of the issue was the heavy workload my son and DIL had to absorb for me. I had hoped that by moving my parents into assisted living, it would be less stressful for everyone.
It has reduced some of the stress of the day by day issues - but there are still lots of doctors, labs, etc. If I could make rewind the last three years, I would have never moved my parents into my home and would have started with a retirement community or assisted living. I thought about the impact on myself by moving them into my home, I didn't realize the impact on the rest of my family.