My mil was diagnosed wth dementia stage 6, she also had a stroke and several bad falls. My sil had POA but stepped down and passed it to her brother (my Hubby) when she had spent all the assets her mom had! I married into and have spent 33 yrs in this "back stabbing" family!! Thank God my husband is nothing like what they are! We have done our best to stay far enough away from the (knives) and biased views they have of others.This family thought nothing of defaming anyones character, especially if there was anything to gain from doing it!! I recently lost my mother,grandmother and a brother all in 1 1/2 yrs. Now I am helping to take care of my mil, since it is my husbands mom. We did this for almost a month (3 days shy) and were not prepared, even with in- home help to take care of her properly. She was far more advanced in the illness than we knew. Her daughter (my SIL) said " she has no business taking care of MY MOM"! All the while she was screamng obsenities in front of my child, something she has done on many occasions around my son, and always when I am not there!!! I have never once gone crazy around hers! So... I sent an email to her telling her exactly what I think of her and did it without any swearing too! I am by far no angel and I don't profess to be but enough is enough!! I had my say and did!! It was worth the wait!. You can't go through your life "LETTING" someone walk all over you! God gave us free will and intellect to be our own person. I thought if I said nothing that would "keep the peace" but I was wrong...it only makes your life harder!!! I was not raised to be bullied. I have 6 brothers and sisters, we did our share of fighting amongst ourselves but we resolved our differences that way. We didn't tell lies to other people so we could feel better about ourselves either! I am at peace now since I wrote to my sil , I guess it was what was meant to be? She can't stab me in the back any more because I know she is truly in denile and not of sound mind. And I do not have to pretend any more.....ahhhh what a relief!!! It is also good because her brother finally sees her for the VIPER she is and always has been! The pen is mightier than the sword......! GOD BLESS
I have one just like that; however, it is my own dear sister. It is quite disgusting and no one in our immediate family wants to have her around. We laugh and say "pass the Xanax" before her arrival at family gatherings. You just never what will set her off or what person unkown to us she will talk badly about all day. We've confronted, emailed and tried having her son talk to her....she is perfect in every way and we have the problems!