Dating website for "caregiver's only".

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They have a dating website for "Farmers Only", they should put one up for "Caregivers Only". At least we all understand for the majority of what we caregivers go through and how difficult it is to find "alone" time. With someone going through what we are, even 10 minutes outside alone is enough. We would also be able to understand some of our "emotional outburst" we go through. Especially for us single caretakers whom wish to still find a life as well as take care of our loved one.

Just a thought, or wishful thinking... feeling extra lonely today. Holidays are coming up. I'm not looking forward to any of it. At all. Wish I could sleep through it and wake up Jan 2, 2014.

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Hi I am new at this, I am a care giver since my mom was diagnosed with multi of elements. Would like to chat
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I agree with StandAlone about not wanting to date another caregiver, but for different reasons. I've been dealing with my husband's dementia for 14 years, 7 trying to get him diagnosed and 7 years as his caregiver. IF I ever date again, and that is a REALLY BIG IF, I would want to make sure that I won't end up being his caregiver. I know that there are no guarantees, so at the very least, a future love interest would have to have a a really good, prepaid, long term care insurance, if they have such a thing as prepaid. I'm only 62, and never want to have to do this again, and I don't want anyone to have to take care of me either. I'm getting a long term care plan for myself. But before I ever considered dating anyone, I'm going to take a LONG vacation at some all inclusive resort, where I don't have to think about anything but eating and sleeping!
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After about a year of scheduling and attending appointments my cousin gave me an angry third degree over a two minute conversation with the woman sitting on the other side of me in the doctor's office waiting room. By ten she had me pressured into tending to her issues three times a week. She required more help than what she was being seen for but she had me too stressed to work my way thru. I needed a sound board like this in the worse way.
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I'm a married man, & a caregiver to my disabled wife. She has no will to go anywhere, & I'm looking to get a motocycle again. I would love to date a woman, caregiver, marital status not concerned. My whole life revolves around my disabled wife, & I feel my life slipping away, & would love to spend a little time with a nice woman, even if for 1/2 hour or so at a time. I'm only 56.
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You are all speaking my language (the language of the caregiver) and I will throw in my $.02. I have been on online dating site for several months now… my caregiving requirements have slowed down a bit, I have more free time lately… but have to agree with captain and others that it isn't as easy as being on the right online dating site. I guess it would be a start. I trade plenty of messages, but it just doesn't compute or add up to a real connection. It seems that it happens more naturally in person, by chance… but who has time/place to do that, anymore? I've resigned myself to being a bit lonely for now - well, actually, I've gotten back on Facebook and started socializing amongst old "friends" that way. It seems to fill the gap, for me. And who knows, maybe I'll just meet a friend of a friend… something like that… that way. Good luck, all.
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I definitely think having someone in a similar circumstance to talk with is helpful, makes us feel less alone and when needed, can be very comforting. I just don't want or care to be dating right now...or even later at this point. I have no hesitation dating someone who is a caregiver. I would gladly help them in their situation as if there is anything I have learned is there are truly few people who honestly know how it feels to be so alone and totally depended upon.

It is strange how much it means on the rare occasion when one of my cousins called and just asked if she could bring me lunch. Another time a friend brought us a bowl of freshly made chicken salad...Little things that mean an awful lot...for the most part that kind of support has not been here for me...but I have no problem as far as the topic at hand in dating someone who is or was a caregiver...I am just at a point in life where, more than anything, having no one else who "needs something from me" is what I need most.
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I agree with everyone who states the obvious of finding the time to date is difficult, as we all know we are looking at our watches if we leave our loved ones for more than 30 minutes. If you can, please find a caregivers meeting support group. You will be amazed to see how many people there are, who know exactly what we go thru. I have met many people and offered myself as a shoulder to cry on, while on others days needed someone's shoulder to cry on. I actually met another member and offered to watch her mom when she had errands to run or I would grocery shop and drop of whatever she needed. She did the same for me. YOU MUST GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK...It really helps to have someone in your life that understands.
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I have to say I get amused when folks tell me I need to get out more, they have this friend, that friend who is lonely and maybe we would hit it off.....Oh I would probably hit it off.....what I would hit off is another matter. People who dare to suggest to me that I should date right now, good grief. As tired as I am all the time the only thing I want to do if and when the rare "time to myself" ever arrives (which it rarely does...at least for more than 30 minutes) all I want to do is grab a cup of coffee and stroll around the yard and look at all the flowers my Mom has planted all over the place through the years....Peace and quiet is my greatest ally in order for me to remain grounded. I find enormous solace in the beauty of God's creation. I enjoy just "being still" and knowing that God is in control of all this, even though at times it feels I will fly off the planet, I know God IS in control. He has brought Mama and me too far to just let us falter.

Looking back through the years, I think being in relationships has been my downfall...or at least because of the men I chose it was my downfall. Too demanding, too controlling, and being one of those people who has that desire to save the planet I always seemed to attract the ones who were broken....oh I was good at fixing them...got them all nice and happy and then they were ready to partay....nope, not going there again. I prefer to devote whatever is left of my life to doing what I am doing now, and then, if I have more time, in devoting that time to helping others and serving the Lord....which I also believe we are doing when we are caring for our loved ones.....

I am not one of those "haters" as I have seen wonderful relationships between folks who seemed meant to be....I just never found that and honestly just don't want to look. It may happen, but if it did, I know I would know it and it would be someone whom God wanted me to be with...other than that....nope.
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i dont think that efforts to meet the special person are very productive. i think that relationships begin with a physical attraction , be it an attractive haircut , smile , etc. pheramones havent really been proven or disproven in human attraction but i believe they play a role. once when i stopped smoking tobacco for a few months i found i could actually detect the odor of females when standing near them. yes it could give me a stir. i believe in pheramone attraction. ive been alone for 15 yrs. seems 90 wt gear oil and mortar dust are masking my otherwise irresistable male aroma. my " equal is probably naked , disced lip , bone thru her nose, riding a zebra , living in zimbabwe or therabouts.
despite her primitave surroundings the zebra b**ch is a certified tig welder.
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Awhhh... that was a lovely read Sacrifice777. Maybe it's all those 7's and DING DING DING, jackpot! :)) I know there are decent people out there... it's just getting OUT there to meet some!... like stressedout2010, I suppose I could meet up at the grocery store... if I linger around the produce department long enough maybe I can find someone there?...wait, no...can't linger that long anywhere, got to get back home to the dogs cuz no one is watching them! Heaven forbid they go 30 minutes without her sneaking them food and slurping on them. My poor 18 year old pooch whose deaf/blind for a year now has vertigo... she's always carrying him around UPSIDE DOWN!
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