Cutting ties with sister - Knowing when It's time to walk away.
This is the last time my sister will bad-mouth, belittle, and degrade me and my husband by texting or any other means. It took place today regarding visiting my father at the nursing home. She's his legal guardian and lives out of state. My husband and I visit him regularly as we live in town, with yesterday being the most recent visit. She hasn't seen him in 3 months and is a 3-hour flight away. My father has decided to discontinue dialysis after about 1.5 years and has been skipping treatment off/on for months and his health is deteriorating quickly. She called asking me to check on him today and I said it would be later due to the weather. She later texted asking my husband to go check on him after he got off work. I replied and said that she and my other sister should fly down here to see him as it's only 3 hours away, as he would need their support, too. She has the time as she isn't employed and the other sister works part-time. Cost wouldn't be an issue as her travel expenses would be covered as part of her legal guardian role. That's when the bad-mouthing texts began. In one evening, I was called psycho, jealous, coward, freak, stupid jackass, denied my being a Christian, and lazy ass. My husband was called "old, crusty, fossil, foot in the grave, and we're sickening to watch." All of this name-calling because we didn't jump when she said hop to go and check on my father as we did the night before. I'm fed up with the verbal bashing as this has gone on for a LONG time (decades), and not only when my father was ill. I stood up for myself and had things to say to her as well; I just didn't sit there and take it. But enough is enough. She mentioned she knows when I post things on this caregiver forum, so if you see this, sister, I'm thankful because I want others out there to know about your bullying personality.