My mother has always been a control freak, liar, hypocrit and master of manipulation. She is unable to feel for others but very sensative to her own pain! I have twins, now 21, born 3 months early. I have pored myself into their care...even homeschooling them beause pulic school...well...stinks! I'm tired. My husband had cancer 4 years ago when he was 40. He lost his bladder and prostate. He now has a urostomy and is tired more than I can describe! But continues to work 12 hour days. I don't think he'll last much longer at his job. I have liver disease and a forward slip in my spine and my hips are killing me. My daughter has cereral palsy. I am almost 50, but I feel 80. My body hurts so much I haw trouble walking sometimes. To make this life more grevious, my parents are now around 70 and will need me as well some day soon. I care for everyone around me but myself. I'm now 100 lbs overweight...and appetite stimulating depression meds helped me get there. I paid my mother to fix meals for my twins while my husband and I were fighting cancer...she didn't. My kids survived on tv dinners I stocked in freezer. My kids needed someone to talk to while we were gone. They were distressed not knowing if their dad would live. My wonderful mother wouldn't comfort them at all nor would she comfort me. I asked her a couple years after he pulled through, why she wouldn't talk to us and she said it was because I am grown and have my own life...yet she calls me to talk for hours about her blood pressure. If I sit within her range at church or other functions, she will lasso the conversation away from me and start talking about herself..usually her bp meds..or her marriage to an alcoholic. She brings these topics up out of the blue. She has always crushed me with criticism, never took me to dentist and rarely to a doctor when I was a kid. She lied and said there was no money, yet she would get new shoes, clothes, RV, etc. She talks about me to my dad and sisters and other relatives...always twisting the story. She is the center of the wheel and we are the spokes. Nobody can have a relationship with each other except with her. We always had to talk to her to communicate with my dad. She turned my sister against me at a young age. She always has to control everyone in our family. My sister moved off. And now it looks like I am the one to care for this woman who has hurt me so much.