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Dear Austin, I am happy for you that's what you need, a caring friend you are going through a lot. take care now
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Hi all, Just wanted to share this with you all, I do feel blessed that we got my Dad into this wonderful assisted living home. This afternoon we went to a little party they had called "tie one on" it was so nice.It was to celebrate men I guess because of Fathers Day some are not fathers well they had lots of delicious food and beer (fake of course) cake and everyone wore ties, but my Dad was so happy he was eating and singing I can't tell you how good that made me feel. Just wanted to share it.
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Micheleangel,
I am so happy for you. It gives me hope that there are answers out there that really work! Give your dad a hug from us!
Linda
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My blessing for today is for Neon for not smoking way to go girlfriend
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My blessisng is that I am going on a 3 day weekend away from all this!!!!
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My blessing is I have all of you and I won't smoke today, or tomorrow or any other day my mind is made up and thats where it is in the mind. So happy you are going away for three days what a great blelssing. You all have a great day
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nauseated~ I'm sorry your 7th grade daughter is being a "butt". I also have a 7th (soon to be 8th) grade daughter. I try hard to remember how I was at her age and realize that we are not that different. It is a very hard age and no matter what we do, it is not good enough, unless we are buying them stuff that is!! My daughter had me in tears the other day simply because of her horrible attitude towards me.. Perhaps alot of it has been learned because of having to deal with my mothers nasty attitude for most of her life, but a lot of it is being a 13 yr. old girl, too. I hope that, although we may not be able to spend as much time as they would like, they do see how much we love them and how many sacrifices we have to make and that we are good, caring, compassionate people.. and that these lessons will hlep them to grow up into good and caring adults themselves, even though I will never expect her to give up her dreams and family to take care of me when I get old. I have no desire to ever drag down my children the way my mother has dragged us down!! and I hope she knows and can appreciate that when she is older!! I'm sure your daughter knows the sacrifices you have to make and that you do the best you can ~ she's a 7th grader and right now, everything is all about her ~ she loves you, she is just at a very selfish age right now! Chin up, this too shall pass!
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OK, now I feel as if I can be of some help!!! I was a middle school teacher for 32 years and I survived!!! Need any insights, I am your girl! It is the "all about me" time in a kids life. Girls are very dramatic at that age, and need to verbalize how they are feeling. Sometimes, mom is the last person they want to talk to. I assure my daughter that I will never let her give up her life to care for me, so I have made sure that my life is planned out. OK, so nothing is for sure, but we are moving into a 55 and over in 2 years, putting our assets into a trust and waiting out the 5 year look back. She is an awesome woman at 30 , but I still need to be sure I wont do to her what my mom has done to me. It isn't her fault, just a generation of poor planning.
Linda
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Dede, and lovingdaughter thank you so much. I just got back from a much needed camping trip a few days ago, and am catching up on reading. I have two more daughters, one married with children. She has learned to appreciate me more, since being on her own, with a family of her own now. She too, is learning how to sacrafice for others, and appreciate all the sacrafices I have made for her as well. I expect that my other two will also learn. I know, I did not appreciate my own mother as much as when I was on my own with a family of my own. It is just part of life, and learning, and growing. I count my blessings for all of us here, who have sacraficed for others. The world is a much better place because of people like all of you.
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NAUSEATED,

Three daughters. How fortunate you are. I have one; we call her the " Limited Edition". If I was sure the next child was also a girl, I would have had another one. No offense people, but I saw the mess mom made out of my brother, and knew I needed a daughter to have as a support throughout my life. She is just that. She is my best friend and I miss her so much. Now if I could get my husband to move to Texas, my life would be so much better.
Glad you had a good trip. I leave for one this weekend. We are now going to schedule one every 3 months. Call it the Sanity Break!!!

Linda
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Dear Linda, how great that you have planned "sanity breaks", it is imperative to your sanity. Enjoy your trip, and have a safe one. I will be praying for you, that your husband will magically decide to move to Texas. I count my blessings that I can remain, for now, in the same state as my daughters. Good evening to all.
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My blessing was that my son and daughter and grandaughter were able to spend time with my husband with me in ICU yesterday at the hospital and he was alert at times and is not in pain and I think he is not afraid of leaving us and realizes he is ready to go home with the Lord and all the support we are getting from the nurses and docs and our friends as he is critatal at this time. The whole staff have been great and bend the rules and let us all in the room together. He became very ill at the nursing home on Tue and at frist it seemed like his usual pasing out but became very serious quickly and is not septic and hhas have heart damage and kidney shut down and is in shock but is alert enough that he knows we are there for brief times and all the docs explain every thing but it is getting time to take him off the drugs that are keeping him alive-he really did not want to have to live in a nursing home forever and our church family have been outstanding and because I was applying for medicaide we have talked about what we would do at the time and we both wanted a memorial service instead of a funeral and the 'kids' 41 and 44 are supporative of me.
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That's wonderful, and is truly a blessing, Austin. You are in our prayers.
Carol
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Quilt of Holes

As I faced my Maker at the last judgment, I knelt before the Lord along with all the other souls.

Before each of us laid our lives like the squares of a quilt in many piles; an angel sat before each of us sewing our quilt squares together into a tapestry that is our life.

But as my angel took each piece of cloth off the pile, I noticed how ragged and empty each of my squares was. They were filled with giant holes. Each square was labeled with a part of my life that had been difficult, the challenges and temptations I was faced with in every day life. I saw hardships that I endured, which were the largest holes of all.

I glanced around me. Nobody else had such squares. Other than a tiny hole here and there, the other tapestries were filled with rich color and the bright hues of worldly fortune. I gazed upon my own life and was
disheartened.

My angel was sewing the ragged pieces of cloth together, threadbare and empty, like binding air.

Finally the time came when each life was to be displayed, held up to the light, the scrutiny of truth. The others rose; each in turn, holding up their tapestries. So filled their lives had been. My angel looked upon me, and nodded for me to rise.

My gaze dropped to the ground in shame. I hadn't had all the earthly fortunes. I had love in my life, and laughter. But there had also been trials of illness, and wealth, and false accusations that took from me my world, as I knew it. I had to start over many times. I often struggled with
the temptation to quit, only to somehow muster the strength to pick up and begin again. I spent many nights on my knees in prayer, asking for help and guidance in my life. I had often been held up to ridicule, which I endured painfully, each time offering it up to the Father in hopes that I would not melt within my skin beneath the judgmental gaze of those who unfairly judged me.

And now, I had to face the truth. My life was what it was, and I had to accept it for what it was.

I rose and slowly lifted the combined squares of my life to the light.

An awe-filled gasp filled the air. I gazed around at the others who stared at me with wide eyes.

Then, I looked upon the tapestry before me. Light flooded the many holes, creating an image, the face of Christ. Then our Lord stood before me, with warmth and love in His eyes. He said, 'Every time you gave over
your life to Me, it became My life, My hardships, and My struggles.

Each point of light in your life is when you stepped aside and let Me shine through, until there was more of Me than there was of you.'

May all our quilts be threadbare and worn, allowing Christ to shine through!

God determines who walks into your life ......it's up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'
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Thanks Neon, That was really nice and appreciated.
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Sometimes we can't figure out why things turn out the way they do and only trust in the Lord that he oversees all and everything happens for a reason. I took my Mom to see my Dad on Fathers Day and she hadn't seen him in a while, we were only there about an hour and she fell. She seemed ok and we didn't go to the hospital then yesterday we did and they admitted her she has pneumonia. They think from the fall (she didn't break anything they did a ct scan of head too) she was very sore and she can't cough it hurts so pneumonia set in. They have her on nebulizer antibiotics and all and I pray she will get better. I feel so bad though that I took her to see my Dad and this had to happen I don't understand it.He was so happy to see her and she was too. I think she tripped on her shoes, rubber soles on carpeting. Everything was going well here with Dad in new home and I just got help in for Mom in my home. Please keep her in your prayers, Thanks so much.
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Micheleangel you and your family are definitly in my prayers how sad that something so wonderful turns out this way but like you said we never know do we what the day has in store for us. not even the next minute is promised to us. God Bless and stay sweet. neon
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Wow, Neon, I am so glad I happened to come today to visit this site. You are an inspiration to me. Your strength and confidence in knowing who you are and especially as a child of God has given me the boost I needed today. God bless you for all you do and for your ability to act during a crisis. I was feeling blue today with one of those pity parties and crying. We have had a crisis and I know that has a lot to do with how I am feeling. My son has been with a young woman for about four years. She is almost finished with getting her radiology degree in ultrasound. This past Fathers Day her father commited suicide hanging himself. She had been estranged from him as he had left the family when she was around 11 years old and he was an alcoholic. Yet, she would see him from time to time and did see him at Christmas. She was so worried he would go to hell. So, I gave her a card and reassured her that God is a loving God and that his old spirit man has fallen away and is replaced with a new holy spirit and for her to have comfort in this. It is going to be a long process for her and we are in the process of getting a Christian counselor for her and my son. I just want to thank you for putting things in perspective for me today. God Bless!
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Micheleangel, praying for your mom and you too. Neon, quilt of holes made me cry, so beautiful.
I'm counting my blessings my dad is healthy, physically, at the moment. His healthcare coverage issue has been a nightmare, and made me crack today. Can't explain all the details, too long. I just got off the phone in tears after the benefits center for his retirement said to me "believe me, we understand". I cried into the phone, "no you don't!". My father is 74yrs old right now with no health care benefits (trying for over three months, to get coverage) did everything I was told to do, and still no answers whether or not his coverage will be in place July 1st. Please pray for dad and I. Michele, after reading about your mom, I totally realized how critical this situation is, and totally lost it with these people over the phone. My dear husband seeing me in tears, spent an hour on the phone with the same people, and was told that Monday, we would receive a call back with info. "Yeah right!". OOps, this is venting. Back to blessings, dad is okay today, but what about 5min from now, or tomorrow?
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Hey Neon and Naus, Thanks for your prayers, Mom is a little better today, Thank God and they found she does have 2 fractured ribs ( explains why she can't cough).I was in last night and got her to cough up stuff for me that really helped her breathe. Things are looking better I'm going in now to see her, you guys are always in my prayers and such a blessing to me!!! Take care now. Michele
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So glad to hear, what a relief. Give her a hug for us dear.
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Neon-thank you for your posting I will read it again tomarrow when I am not so exhausted -my husband passed away this morning at 4am we were with his as he left us-we took him off life support meds 12 hr. earlier except for pain med and breathing tube and our son and I went to the funeral home our families have used forever and made arrangements since I was working on medicaide we had to plan what we would do when the time for us to go be with the Father so I knew what he wanted and the kids 41 and 44 supported us in the decision and have been a Godsend but am glad I am alone and do not have to hold it together tonight.
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Austin,
My prayers are with you and your family for your loss. You have been an inspiration to all of us and our thoughts are with you now and forever. Take care dear friend.
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Dear Austin, I'm also praying for you, for your loss, and the strength for the future too. God Bless You sweet one.
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Dear Austin, I will keep you and yours in my prayers I'm sorry for your loss. You have done so much , please take care of yourself.
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Dearest Austin, I am so sorry to read about the loss of your husband. With all you have been through the gamut of emotions must be overwhelming. Please forgive me for not being here when things were getting tougher. For the past two days we had a severe storm hit that wiped our area out of power for two full days. We had downed wires, trees uprooted, etc so its been hectic on top of a normal life.

I am going to write on your wall.... and please know that my heart in all sincerity is with you. Be comforted my friend....
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Austin, your prayers are with you. I'm so glad you have the support of your grown children. You have been a wonderful example for them during this long ordeal.
Blessings,
Carol
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Thank you everyone for your support I am very blessed to have all of you dear friends and my church family and my kidssupporting me I am still numb and can not believe he is gone- he loved the father and I am confident his soul is there now-I can not imagine what it must be like when I had to ID him at the funeral home his expression was I have been telling you all for years this is what I wanted. The phone has been ringing all day and everyone wants to come to the memorial service our small church will be busting at the seams I am going to bake lots of brownies they were his favorite for that time. Soon I will get back to getting involved with your lives until then please keep me in your thoughts and may God bless you all.
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God bless you Austin and you bet we will!
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I am so sorry for your loss Austin but glad you have such wonderful support and love around you. We will continue to keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
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