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How do you survive watching your loved one die? Mom is in hospice. She had a stroke on Wednesday and now it is a waiting game. She has CHF and the end was near. I did not send her to ER when she had the stroke. Now she can't talk and is paralyzed on one side. We are in a waiting game waiting for the end. It is excruciating at times. How do you cope? If she is still hear on Monday do I go to work? Watching someone die like this is terrible.

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Lovemymamma, I bet your mom went exactly like she wanted. You will be able to ask one day, but I'm thinking you won't even care then as the reunion will be filled with so much joy.

May God hold you tight and give you grieving mercies during this hard trial. See you on the other side some day🤗
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Dear lovemymamma,

My deepest sympathies and condolences. I am very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you. Sending you love and hugs.
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I hope you can find some rest in the days ahead

God bless
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I am sorry rwbpiano. The last few days are tough. Death is an ugly process. I had no idea. It is a personal thing and perhaps it is better not to see the last bit if it is going to tear you to pieces. I think that my mom would have wanted it just how it was. I hope so.
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I lost my older brother last month. The last few days were tough. I wanted to be there with him when he passed, but none of us were. It's very difficult. There are no words to make it better. Just realize you are not alone.
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I’m very sorry for the loss of your mom. There’s a unique pain in losing ones mother, especially when she’s been a constant good presence in your life. I hope you’ll be surrounded by the good memories in the days ahead
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My heart aches for you, having been there for my own dear mom who was so extremely ill and suffering, I think I understand your pain quite well. You're a loving daughter. It was her time to go. One step at a time. Many hugs.
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My dear mom passed today. I was there until 1pm and left for work. I have to be honest, I was having a hard time coping. This is after my my husband or I had been with her 24/7 since last wed. It was hard. I told her everything I wanted to. I was at work two hours later and she passed with a friend and loving nurse. Was she waiting for me to go? I will ask her some day, This site has been a friend to me for many years. Thank you for being my sounding board. I will sure miss her.
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Dear lovemymomma,

I am so sorry, I know this is an extremely difficult time. Thinking of you. Sending you love and hugs. Be kind and gentle with yourself. And if possible, maybe you can take some time away from work. It will be hard and your mind and body will need a break. Please know we are all here.
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I lost my sweet mom last month, she was on hospice, during that time, I would talk to her, tell her how much I love her, held and gently squeeze her hand, and assured her every thing going to be all right, Follow your heart, the Hospice nurses will assist your during this time, from their experiences the would tell when it's time, but in mean time talk to her, hold her hand. Kiss her on forehead. It's going to be all right. Keep your heart and mind in love and faith. Hospice would support you.Give it to God in prayer. 
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