Adult children should really consider the ramifications of moving their elderly parent/s in with them and vice versa. I have read more serious problems with this dilemna, on this site, then good. Some people are just not cut out to be a caregiver to their elderly parents for so many different reasons. For those who can, I applaud them. For those who can't, don't feel guilty and accept your limitations. I contemplated taking in my mother at some future date after my stepfather died. Over the course of the year, I realize that it would not be good for either one of us. I have made it known to my mother that her future care will not be dependent on me and to start considering other options. Hopefully she will start making decisions before they will be made for her. She does have other options both financially and offers made by other family members. Her expectation of it being just me is unfair and inconsiderate when she has other choices. I know I am just not the caregiver type and do not feel guilty. If ohers see me as selfish and uncaring so be it.