I care for my 97 yr old father in his home. He is mentally good but poor mobility.
Back story. I had breast cancer about 5 yrs ago, no help or support from my family. My one brother actually said he was sick of hearing about my little “speck”. 3 yrs ago my ex lost his job and stopped paying my alimony, I went through my savings, took on 2 extra jobs besides my main one, sold everything that had any value. Still lost my health insurance and then my home. I lost hundreds of thousands of dollars (my home was in a country living magazine issue). During these 3 years I also lost my mother and my 2 dogs. There were days I couldn't afford to eat, I went to food pantry’s and ate crackers... I moved out of state, away from my friends to live with dad. He needed help anyway, seemed like a perfect fit. Well since I’ve been here I realize he needs constant supervision. I took a p/t temp job but he fell 3 times tearing a rotator cuff my first week. He won’t eat or drink when I’m not home to make him. He has no concept of safety.
I’m trying to find a p/t early morning job before he is up but it’s hard. I am thankful for room and board but I still have bills to pay. Saw a local ad for a live- in caregiver for a mobile woman. Full room and board plus $100 a day. Just used this as an example to my 3 sibs. Next week he has 5 dr appts, 4 in 3 days. Said if they want me here 24/7 I need financial help. Otherwise I have to get a full time job and dad will be on his own for 9 hrs or so. Got the nastiest email back from “speck” brother saying how dare I ask for money to take care of our father and he is sick of my being whiny. Meanwhile in the 10 months I have been here he has only been down to visit once and called 3 times. Called my sis and she got short with me implying that I’m too much drama. I have no friends here, no support, some weeks I don’t even talk to anyone other than dad and get no respite.
I love cooking for my dad , I try to make tasty, healthy meals for him but he pretty much has no teeth so it’s a challenge. My sister gets on me for spending too much money on groceries and says I should just give him baby food.
I hate my sibs right now, told “speck” brother to go to h*** and he said “you first”. Feel sooo alone...