I have been lucky. Until recently, my mother was fairly self sufficient so I felt I could leave her alone for periods of time, in order to go to the gym, have a social life, etc. My mother is 89 yrs old and I am 65, divorced, no kids. We have lived together since my divorce nearly 20 years ago.
Just in the last month, my mother's health has taken a nose dive. She had a compression fracture in her back, which sent her into spasms of pain. She now need to have 7/24, as she has problems walking. I am going to get her an adjustable cane per the PT's recommendation.
My sister, who lives 10 minutes away is useless. She refuses to help mom and calls her on the phone to re-enact old family quarrels. I am paying my nephew, who is 31 and works nights to watch my mom on the rare occasion I need to go somewhere for some time. He is also almost useless, as all he does is watch TV and does not check on Mom, monitor her vitals or talk with her. Still, it's peace of mind to have someone who is family and can call 911 in case of an emergency.
Still working on solutions. There have been a slew of nurse, social worker and Physical Therapist coming by the house to check on her. Also working on getting a POA & Living directive
So there it is. My sister will never help or come around as she is a bitter, unhappy woman who blames everyone for her own misery. We have no other relatives in the area. It's a change in my life, but it's my mother and I will take care of her.