My husband is 92 and we have only been married for 7+ years. I knew him when he was an Army officer and I worked for the Red Cross in 1956. He was my protector since he is 13 years older than me. I was only 23 then and the only young female in the area of Ft. Benning. He got transferred as we were really starting to fall in love. We wrote for several years. He married and when I was getting married I told him I was marrying a man from Poland. He advised against it as we would have different upbringing. I didn't listen, but almost 40 years later I discovered my husband was having an affair with his assistant. When I returned home from Poland, I started to look for him. (I was pretty angry) to tell him that he was right, I should not have married him. His wife had died 6 months prior to my calling. He remembered me very well. We talked for 2 years before meeting. We married 3 months later. Shortly after that I started noticing things that I did not see before. His driving!!! And of course many other things that in the excitement of finding him, I did not see.
Sorry for the long beginning, but it is what has brought me here. He had retired from the Army, but I took him to a good neurologist and the diagnosis: ALZHEIMERS. It has been extremely difficult because I didn't get to ease into this. There are times I want to run. He is so needy and wants me there in front of him 24 hours a day.
It is hard not to get angry and then I get very upset with myself. Just needed to vent, I guess. Thanks for listening.