NeedHelpWithMom Posted November 2019
Caring for a mom, dad, aunt, uncle, cousin or grandparent is hard. How much harder is it to care for a spouse or significant other?
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Caring for my mom really did me in. It sucked the life out of me. I am sure this has contributed to my general fear of caregiving nowadays.
From time to time I think about aging with my husband. He is only about six months older than I am.
I have decided that I would like to die first. I have been married 41 years. I can’t bear to think of losing him. I really feel it would be easier for me to die first.
This brings me to a different point. Do any of you feel men cope better or differently with losing their wives than women do with losing their husbands? I know that I shouldn’t generalize and that we are all different but I truly feel that men and women are wired differently.
Your thoughts on this?
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Yep. I agree with your sentiments. There are exceptions but I am like you. I don’t think I would seek out a serious relationship if my husband dies before me.
What are the stats these days? Don’t women generally outlive men?
The flip side, many men have married in less than six months. My FIL moved his companion in his home three weeks after my MIL died! That’s fast!
Yes, I know not all men do this. A lot more men jump into relationships much sooner.