Caregiver's who are treated badly by the children of the people they are hired to care for.

fregflyer yes iv been thinking of going through an agency that way the bulling /abuse may be less??

BUT people lie!! to cover up what they did or said to the caregiver!!! iv gotten to where i use my cam / video on phone to document their crazy crap!!!

Debra thanks for responding !!! yea with certain scenario one can speak up but,I have found after nearly 10 years of care giving its all about them!!

I had one threatening to call cops on me, I'm still left wondering WHY??? she told me to get out and i was packing my stuff up as quick as i could !!

if you don't act like ur their slave they get angry !! (iv done many things that weren't considered care giving ( yard work, washing their cars,deep cleaning, personal assistant to their kids ). never having any time off! to take care of my own life.

I'm left feeling like I have to beg them for time off .... One gig I had, I had to pay a gal to step in for me so i could take care of my responsibilities out side their home!!! they act like ur non human!! they don't understand your living their life not yours!!

The women get jealous of you cause ur younger ! and had one gal who was 95 i think may of been bi sexual she would come onto me sexually !! CREEPY!! id walk in and she would be sitting there naked many times !!! crazy !!!!

many get angry over stupid crap like.... u didn't close cabinet door and they are going to fire u for it .....one had a break down all because i opened bag of cookies what they considered to be wrong way ! !YIKES over damn bag of cookies trying to ruin my life!!!!!

Any ways !! such as life !!!

If one is an independent contractor and am finding these types of situations, it might be good to sign up with a licensed and bonded caregiver Agency where the Agency would deal with all these problems.

Chances of being bullied might be much slimmer as an adult child wouldn't want to deal with an agency. The agency would still pay you even if the adult child doesn't want to pay the agency.

often the kids don't even realize how awful they come off to caregivers. I'm not making excuses, I live both sides of it. I'm a HHA part time and care for my mom. Try to let it go without letting it affect you. They are looking for a target to loose all their fears and anger on. If it gets too bad ask them how they think it would work better? Sometimes I get so offended by family members with poor people skills that I just want to scream. But that won't help so I just stay quiet and pretend I still work with two year olds

i had one client who starved his grand mother and it was unwritten rule that my pay would buy her food!!!! NOT!! so she lost a lot of weight!!!

yet another got pissy cause she wanted me to be at her beck and call as if i was a dog ..... come here puppy puppy attitude!!

two of them had a problem with me keeping my bed room door closed as if i was suppose to sleep with it open!!!NOT!!!!! they get so paranoid about what ur doing in ur room !!!!

yet another one got so jealous about me having a new iphone (she was 95 ) that she wrote a long letter to her gandson claiming all kinds of outrages lies about me!!! i found letter and confronted her of course she said she didn't write the letter!!!!! she also claimed i was keeping her from her G/s which i wasn't, he lived just 2 doors down and he didn't want to be bothered with her !! they are allays quick to blame you for any and every thing that goes wrong be it house or their loved one !!

god for bid you want time off of any kind oh noooooooooo !!!

omg you would not believe what iv been though with care giving !!!! reason why many people dont use agency's is cause they have to go by rules and regulations and pay out of the *ss to have a care giver, when they hire some one off the street they feel they are entitled to treat u like ur their own personal WHIPPING CHILD / SLAVE !!

i try to work for people who dont have a lot of family due to every one in the family wants to the boss and they all have diff reasons for why their way is better ,they are good at lips service but don't want to care for their loved one.

I agree; you paid rent; you have tenant rights. They have to give you notice.

See if you can find a pro bono landlord tenant attorney, or a clinic with pro bono help to protect your interests.

Saturn, apply for unemployment, you are entitled. You also have tenant rights, they have to serve eviction notices properly.

Thank you all so much for responding I was beginning to think I was alone in this, things have gotten worse for me the lady I was caring for has been fighting her sons to not put her into a nursing home but she had to go to the hospital on Friday and the had her sedated for more than 36 hours then they waited another 24 hours and then informed that the ""hospital" are putting her into a nursing home and that her son, who would not ever stay with her is moving into the house immediately and I have to move out. I pay rent here as part of my compensation, they plan to give me no notice, still owe me back pay and don't care if I end up in my car. They have said how grateful they are for the care I have been giving their Mother and even called me an Angel especially since she is very combative and they have not been able to keep a caregiver, to make matters worse my nephew was murdered by robbers on thanksgiving day and I now have to move instead of attending his funeral. Right now I don't know when they are going to show up and make me leave but I am packing and trying to find another job. Right now I feel that I don't want to do another care job, especially live-in so I am hoping that the law will allow me enough time to find a job and a place to live. I loved this Industry when I first took a vocation almost 5 years ago to help make it possible for Seniors to remain in their homes but it has been the most difficult, thankless experience of my life. The only good thing about this, is that I will finally be out of a bad environment. Wish me luck...

You've come to the right place. There is no need to tolerate any abuse. What you do is in big demand. You could find a job in any town, anywhere.

Search for recent posts by "ladee1." I think you'll find some common ground.

Well, Saturn, you've come to the right place. Most of the caregivers on this site have suffered verbal abuse, allegations of stealing, are under-appreciated and work for NOTHING.

You'll find sympathetic ears and useful suggestions here. Welcome.

saturn2015, as the patient continues to decline, the children will direct more of their Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG) in your direction. They need counseling; if they refuse, you should seek employment elsewhere.