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What you did today.


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Link a music video, movie video, funny animal video. Whatever interest you. Anything from the mundane, to the seriously deep. From ghosts to aliens!


With 7 billion people on this planet, NO ONE should feel lonely! This is your thread, make it work for you!


*PAIN SHARED, IS CUT IN HALF*


*JOY SHARED, IS MULTIPLIED*


*WHEN YOU SPEAK FROM THE HEART,


*YOU SPEAK TO THE HEART.*


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Shell. That was such a beautiful post. I would say your father's spirit lives on within you. I too had a father like that. He passed in 2010 from complications due to heart bypass. I find consolation in knowing he was having other difficulties with aging that he would not truly want to have lived with.
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Hi...Im feeling burnt out.My mum is in advanced stages of dementia and has just this week developed an obsession with the toilet! I dont know if shes anxious because shes loosing control,or of she really believes she has to go,but shes back and forwards every 15 mins to the toilet all day and half the night.
This involves assisting her to use her walker,washing her hands...etc
But she doesnt do anything!
Its driving me crazy!
I have been caring for her alone for 4 and a half years now.I get 4 hours respite a week.
Shes deaf,nearly blind and still treats me like the help,as if there is something wrong with me,when I tell her shes just been.
I was just coping with her behaviour and caring for her,but this is really exausting.(I am also renovating the house as we have to move,trying to work part time at home,and remain sane living in the centre of this noisy city).
What do you do when you just want to scream?
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I didn't quite understand about getting hit hard by PM which am assuming translates to personal messages. This is regarding Pepsee. If she only knew how she is missed
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I have thought about Becky too
Never had communication with her but it was so sad to hear about her sudden widowhood
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Has anyone heard from Becky? her husband PJ passed a few months ago, and she went to spend some time with her kids. I was really hoping she would come back.
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i have been worried about peppsee too. she was so supportive and we had so much in common.
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Lately I have been missing my dad. I don't know if it is because of the holidays or if it is because I just had something good happened and I want to tell him. I miss his wisdom; I miss his weird sense of humor.
I watch movies or hear a song and think my dad would have like that.

I miss how he kept other family members from attacking me. But he did raise me to take care of myself.

I miss how the kitchen was our play ground. Us cooking together enjoying the food that we prepare.

I wake up some morning were I just can't catch my breath. I know he is with me; I also believe that all the wrongs that my mother & brother have done to me he now see it.

I pray that he forgives me for I did not know the truth. My heart is heavy at times because I did not realize that he was the one who truily loved me, and that my mother lives in a world were she believes she did nothing wrong because her love for me was right, but her love was just to use people and it was always that way-I just didn't see it.

It is sad that it took my dad's death to make me see the truth.

I just pray that he sees the hard decisions I make everyday and is proud of me. That he looks down and says, "that's my girl".

I wonder will this ever get easier?!

Just wanted to get that off my heart:(
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Oh that's sad to hear tacy. Thanks for letting me know
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I think about Pepsee and wonder how she is
She responded to one of my first posts. Later I heard her story and was amazed. Wishing you well
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I got this great little book called Small Batch Preserving from Amazon. The recipes make just a few jars at a time - it gives me the fun of canning without it being an all day job. There's a peach jam recipe that you make in the microwave - peaches, sugar and lemon juice. I'm hoping to get a few jars of dilly beans put up for the holidays.

Mmmm....bread and butter pickles.
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My hubs made pickled banana peppers that just go in the fridge..no canning needed. He got the recipe off the internet, and they are really yummy. Not bad for first time.. but BF said they need more sugar.. an easy fix
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This time of year relish and chili sauce use veg that are in season and are easy and good, or salsa!
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I have tried many pickle recipes over the years and they are always... not quite what I'm looking for. Now jams are easy - fruit, sugar and follow the directions that come with the pectin. Jams and jellies that aren't as readily available at the store can be a real treat!
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I feel like making some food to either pickle or jar or can. Any ideas? I had a roommate in college with a grandmother who made her own pickles and they were so delicious I thought I might try buying some cucumbers and getting a good recipe to put pickles in jars as give-aways for the holidays. Thought I might make my own labels too. I need a distraction. Anyone have any ideas on this? Any recipes? Thanks friends.
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How are you doing Pepsee? Have been thinking about you and also have worried as it doesn't seem as you have posted recently.
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Staffbull, if even a part of a day is good that is an accomplishment that doesnt disappear. I love desserts. I hope you really enjoyed yours.
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I am a very happy and positive person with great faith. But....this caregiving thing 24-7 is REALLY hard. Due to multiple health problems my husband has paralysis on the left side, trouble eating and drinking and swallowing his own secretions. he has been non weight bearing for 19 months due to partial foot amputations from several really bad infections. We had really wonderful infectious disease Doc and Podiatrist specializing in wound care here in Utah and managed to get the wound soooo close to all healed up that he can now start to stand up. If transfers could get easier I am gong to be so grateful. My challenge is that his mind is very clear and memory great. That makes it difficult for him to deal with his lack of mobility and incontinence. He was very active and all of this started with stubbing his toe. So many demands and I have to remind him that just because I can do something it doesn't mean I should. I have back problems and if I get hurt he will be in a world of difficulty. Thanks for letting me vent.
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i actually had a really good day. i went to a meeting and then to lunch with a friend. we went to this beautiful restaurant right on the lake and i even had dessert 🍮. as some of you know i have been struggling with anorexia for 39 years and i was actually doing okay after i got out of treatment again in august. however, life happened again this january. but my friend said that her relationship with me is different than it is with her other friends. she said that i seem to talk about my past and our conversation is deeper. i actually got really emotional and i felt like there was something wrong with me. i am kinda feeling like that a lot. i feel like someone is telling me that who i am is not right. i can’t really explain it but even my therapist said that i don’t dress right. i really need a little positive feedback but maybe there isn’t any to give. actually i just want to have no feedback. i just realized i started this out saying i had a great day but as i am writing this i guess it wasn’t so good. i am actuality emotional again. i am so sorry. i guess i am just venting.
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First CD arrived today! IT'S MORE AWESOME THAN I EVEN HOPED! :-D
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Did you say share music links?

I dunno if I should be encouraged like that, lol.

Ok, this is my current "jam" as the young people say. It's a musical collaboration with Buffy Sainte-Marie and Inuk throat singer Tanya Tagaq. (Remember Buffy? She is 77 now and rocking rings around the rest of us musicians.) I can't stop playing it! I must now hear it at least 3 times in a row before I start my day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5zb0WTSLsY

I ordered the whole Buffy Sainte-Marie CD ("Medicine Songs") - because I need this in my car!!! It should be here by the end of the week, fingers crossed. (Also ordered her previous CD, "Power in the Blood" - that's the one that won the Polaris prize mentioned below the video.)
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Stacy, ah yes, name changes over the generations. One side of my family has 4 to 5 different spellings of one name, but what is great about Ancestry.com is that they take that into consideration, thus you will get info on all those different spellings :)) And sure enough, a match will show up.

What is a bear is when a relative changes their last name completely. It can really mess up the search.

My Mom's mother changed her first name from an old country name to a more American sounding name.

Then there are countries that have changed their name. Like Yugoslavia was broken into 6 separate countries.... Bosnia and Herzegovina, Serbia, Croatia, Montenegro, Slovenia, and Macedonia. Yikes !!
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Good for you Djavue!

! But if the need to vent arises, feel free... . I already did!

So ok glad you're here!! 🌹💜
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Tomorrow is first of two bladder tests. We got through stitches out from a fall and not as bad as eye diagnosis as could have been. So that was a good week. Not looking forward to tomorrow but we will persevere. We dont have the log filled out as that would have required a staff not someone with memory loss and her main hand stitched. Hoping they get that. If one could fill out the log they requested they probably wouldnt need their bladder tested.
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http://www.msn.com/en-us/money/healthcare/america-is-running-out-of-family-caregivers-just-when-it-needs-them-most/ar-BBKRlWd?ocid=ientp
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Great idea for a thread. I’m tired of only posting about being bitter and depressed. Luckily, those feelings come and go, and in between is plenty of good. Today I’m focused on cleaning up for a visit from my son next week. I also have a craft project I want to start on. I took a walk this morning (while mom was sleeping) and it was perfect 70 degree weather. Hope you all find something positive in your day!
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Tacy,
Tha was crazy!! I couldn't believe the grown men who actually cried over that!! What shame....
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Hi GingerMay!
So glad you're here! While I don't know much about planting, I am interested in growing lavender and Jasmine in pots! Planting anything in the ground gets trampled by the wild life here.

Im going to Google both plants and give it a go! Let me know what you find about it also. Lol, we can do this heehee 👍😀
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Thank you Frazzled, you're always right on time with a hug 💜

I started writing my comment before Stacy and Cwillie made their comments. By the time I was done and posted it, it was far away from Riverdale comment, which I was planning to just relate to her feeling non ambitious today
(But it snowballed)....lol...I write so slow.

Anyway after reading Stacy's story, I want to hear more of it!!! Plus I feel better.

My son just came home from work and told me he's taking me to see my all time favorite music group.....TKA on labor day weekend!!!!!! They will be performing at the resort my son works for. Woo Hoo!

I spent my 20's following them around in Manhattan and New Jersey.

What a difference 30 minutes can make!! Life is crazy.
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Hugs, Pepsee. You have really been through the wringer. Sending good thoughts your way for you, your hubby and your mom.
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Hi Riverdale, glad you made it!
Im feel blah myself. Got up this morning saw all the dishes , garbage full, beds unmade, popcorn all over Mom's floor, days worth of unopened mail on the coffee table, etc....told hubby, I just can't keep up with all this cleaning, cooking twice a day and taking care of Mom's every whim!

My bathroom and living room look like medical storage rooms. I've been running on 2-4 hrs of sleep, then when it catches up, I crash during the day. I live on coffee and cigs. I feel sick to my stomach with no ambitious, not to bathe, not to shop, nothing.

I have " fatty liver". After monitoring my enzyme levels and bi yearly sonograms, for 3 years, my Dr referred me to a gastroenterologist. I was supposed to see him last month, but cancelled. No time.

My hubby and I spent 2017 running around treating his rectal cancer. Months of near daily
(Mon-Fri) radiation treatments. Chemo treatments and LOTS of appointments with each individual specialist on his care team. After the surgery we we're elated he didn't get a colostomy bag, as Dr wasn't sure going in.

At that point is when I started making the weekly 6hr trip to Mom's house to clean and try to help her. That only lasted 2 months. I took her home with me and the rollercoaster ride began.

Hubby went for his first 6 month check up the end of June, and spots on his lung were found. There was nothing there in his pre surgery chest x-ray. (Nov 2017) This is new. The Dr they sent him to see for a biopsy, said they were too small and impacted to get at. He will check them again in 3 months. Oy.....

Sorry for my verbal vomit, it really didn't start out that way. Obviously I needed to dump...lol. ❤️
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