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I'd. been with "my lady" 10 days straight, no breaks. Alzheimer's client, plus sundowners. I'd recently bought my dream car, a red ragtop mustang. So on my next day off, after clearing it with the kids, early morning, I picked my lady up, got her strapped in her seat, and we had a trip of a lifetime! Sunny day, warm, so we put the top down, tied her scarf on, headed for the mountains. She picked the music, which way to go, and we rode all day, seeing beautiful country. What I saw was a senior full of happy laughter, content with her day. We stopped at the gift shops - bought nothing but lunch. As the day wore down, we headed home. I could see she was getting very tired, so we put the top up, and she sat there and dozed off. Got her home, into her p.j.'s and for the first time in my two years of having her, there were no arguments about going to bed. This was in July, and in August, my lady went home. In her sleep. When cleaning the home out, her children found a note she had written to me, thanking me for the most wonderful day in her almost 80 years. She had also left me the scarf she wore that day. I was blessed to know her.
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I would love to spend a whole day working on my garden and yard, and hanging out with my dogs. Sleep well and all night, and not wake up to the sound of a motion alarm. Take a long shower and not worry abt what is happening while I'm there. Go out on a date.
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Probably go visit with my youngest son and my grandchildren who live out of state. Oh how I would love that.
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I would take a plane to somewhere far far away... And probably not come back... Joking... But not 100‰
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I’d also say sleep...but since I don’t rest well anyway and miss the outdoor life, I would love a 4 day vacation at a little house or tiny house by a lake, near a forest with a view of the mountains. Yes only 4 days because while I don’t like the current living situation I’m in, I miss having my own things about me and my own bed and just going into my closet and picking out whatever to wear. Living out of a suitcase with travel size things and limited clothes etc isn’t fun for me. No I’m not fancy, I just feel better when I have options.

I wouldn’t care if it rained every day so long as I could have fresh forest smell in my nose and the cacophony of bird song. No city noises, no neighbors running their leaf blowers at all hours, no Harleys revving up at 5am. Just Nature in its pure state. I’d eat pb&js and apples and swat at gnats and mosquitos and never stop grinning through my tears of happiness. If my bf and my dog came too, it’d be fine but even 4 days without them both would just allow me to breathe freely with no care but myself.
Then my anxiety would kick in and I’d realize “IM ALL ALONE OUT HERE AND WHAT IF...?!!” because of course it would. Lol. I do so love my very special brain.
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Almost 2 years ago, my hubby and I came back to our hometown to help mom care for dad who has dementia .. we moved 500 miles away from here almost 20 years ago. I would go visit old friends... screw COVID!
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Cclc33,

I like your taste in music! I love jazz. I listened to it on the way home from visiting mom in hospice.

I never listen to the top 40 crap! Growing up in New Orleans has spoiled me with good music. I don’t go for mediocre pop music.

You can stream our music online if you like jazz. wwoz.org That is our Jazz and Heritage station. They broadcast our jazz festival.

I am so looking forward to the festival opening up again.
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Sleeping and chilling to some jazz without having my mother nag about something she thinks need to be changed in my house, or anything related to the cat which is not an emergency, example: "have you seen the cat? Where is he?" when he's an indoor cat and all our windows and doors are shut... I just want one day where I don't get blamed for the most trivial crap.
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I would love a vacation. Always wanted to visit France and Italy. I told my husband we should have gone when we were younger and healthier.
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Sleep is one we starve for daily but I think I would choose me and my hubby “toes in the sand and listening to the waves”. I will nap there :)
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8 hours uninterrupted sleep!!!
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Every time I had a stressful CG time with DH, I would want to shut down and sleep. And if one of the kids offered to be home with him, that's exactly what I did.

I take a nap almost everyday. With DH WFH he has been aware of this and has commented on it. Since the cancer, this is the new norm. He's never seen me so easily fatigued and I have to care for myself as he certainly does not. Having him at home working has been really bad--he treats the house as his office, I have to be quiet at all times, and he eats all day and leaves messes all over.

Sometimes I go down for a 'nap' at 4 pm and don't get up again. If I sleep like that, it means my body needs it and I am learning to listen to my body and treat myself better.

I'm of zero use to anyone who catches me when I am so tired.
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Well, when I was the primary caregiver and I was sleep deprived, sleep is the best answer!

I hope you are able to get sleep soon 💤.

Take care.
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