My mom keeps wanting to go visit my sister but she lives 5 hours away, is it mean of me to think that my sister and brother should just visit their mother? I sent an email to my brother and sister and have told them before that traveling isn't going to happen much. They are just so "busy" Then my brother that lives 10 minutes away just texts me daily wanting to know when the new homecare service will start. He wants that so he can just have his own time and not be bothered. I just dont understand how they act this way we were raised by the same parents but I am the baby and did spend more time with my parents when they were older. I have been caring for my mom for many years not really even sure how long she has had dementia she has had brain injury since she was 16 which causes seizures and the meds have caused this condition. This site has really helped me deal with my stress but I have been thinking for weeks now about leaving my job to help dealing with my mom easier plus other reasons since I have such a stressful job. So in three weeks I will be away from working my crazy nighttime hours. Told them I can't keep my sanity when my mom is at home alone because my brother leaves her so Im just sitting at work thinking and worrying about her. My brother stops by for a few minutes but every night some sport event is more important than his mother.